Just know that our immune systems are as unique as we are. Yours is going to do what is best for you and your partner's will do that for them. Don't stress about being taken out, but listen to your body and allow it to heal you.
I'm more like your partner and my wife is more like you and I take great pleasure in being able to take care of us when we're sick together.
You will have to eat though, brushing and showing can pause for a bit. Immune systems require nutrition to operate.
Based on OPs willingness to admit that other people fighting for their very basic human rights as annoying, I'll answer for them and say yes.