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Once I had to get a surgery, and in recovery was waking up, nurse thought it too soon and said "let's just dial this up" and put me back to sleep with a dose of whatever opiate was in the IV and that is absolutely the only way I'd want to do that. So gentle.

I have a friend who was my boss. He was, by all accounts, a mess of a micromanaging, push you until you drop kind of boss. He did personally more than any of us too, first in, last out, worked from home too. I personally just told him no, and did what I could reasonably accomplish, and didn't worry about his pushing. Always got good reviews, never got promoted but he did get me a big raise one year.

People still talk about him at work, but I still talk to him. He is an interesting person and a good friend just not a good boss - any boss should know most employees don't push back even if you tell them "tell me if it's too much"

OTOH, the witch of an HR lady, and the A/P manager who chewed his way through 3 entire staffs, they can burn in whatever hells they landed in.

If I were a wealthy woman I would retire and travel the world in style, with whoever wanted to come along. Wouldn't even need a house.

If we were just well off (like making twice the income we do now) I'd be out of debt, and fixing up the house to be beautiful, and still traveling but only when I had PTO.

If I had a rich man, like if husband was making 4x his s income, I'd work 5 more years but put all the money away into savings, then retire and fix up the house, work in the garden, enjoy life and hopefully travel on his time off.

Are you kidding? Drunk guys take forever!

I am straight as a board, to my despair. Women are so beautiful and in general hold up better as we get older, it would be so lovely to know I could switch teams if my husband died or we divorced, my kids say I should date women next time if there is a next time but alas, I've tried and there is nothing. It's men for me.

I would argue that being attracted to individuals regardless of their gender is the most natural and reasonable sexuality there is, though. I think of bisexuality or pansexuality as the default setting for humans - we don't have a mating season or anything, we use sexuality for all sorts of non- reproductive reasons. My kids were raised with no pressure to be straight or not, 3/4 of them are queer, 2 of those lean gay one leans hetero, but as preference not orientation if that makes sense. One is as straight as I am, it's an orientation.

The world would be filled with old people.

You are thinking it would just be a gentle way to reduce population but even if women did artificial insemination to keep your 1/20 birthrate, the world as you know it needs a lot of people to run it - farmers, network engineers, maintaining all the systems that make your comfortable existence possible requires a baseline population with particular skills, of working age. There is a reason technology increased with population growth.

The natural world would be better off, probably. Humans would be in for a rough ride, and would probably die out.

FedEx not bad where I live, but UPS? My friend said she always knew when they were delivering when she heard the box hit the house, they literally just hurled packages from the truck. I used to sell Avon and had to get it delivered to the local office not my house because UPS was the carrier and nothing would survive. My ex heard the driver that delivered to his work negotiating to sell the stuff on his truck.

You know who likes CK Obsession? Cats. Big and small.

I was an anorexic teen and young 20something and though I am long recovered and take good care of my body now, I do not think I see what others do. We have one mirror in the house, though, that is so flattering. I will sometimes stand in front of it, naked, and ask my husband if I really look like that - I thought it was stretching me vertically; but he says yeah, that is exactly what you look like.

So my money is on lighting.

Also there used to be a saying (before filters) "the camera adds ten pounds". People look better moving around than frozen in time, even models, it's a thousand pictures and picking the best one.

Sure. But they ought not all be enforceable.

Oh boy, does this depend. I strongly suggest you wear what you like, and not worry about compliments.

Personally, Kouros and not too much of it is one I both notice and like but I do think it's polarizing. I dislike aquatic musks and overly clean smells, laundry musks.

But again - it's so individual you are better off pleasing yourself, if you smell good to you, you will be happier and that is attractive.

Stress can wreck memory.

I am not great with faces, apparently, because people recognize me but I don't recognize them, a lot. Like, no shit the FedEx guy bringing stuff to my work recognized me from grade school. Some people are REALLY good at recognizing people.

In general I'd say I am much better at figuring things out, than remembering them, and it has ever been so. Even in school I passed algebra by remembering the quadratic formula and just figuring out the rest of it each time. I don't do things the same way every time. When I try to do things by rote, without thinking I fuck them up.

If it's bothering you, try mindfulness - throughout the day take a breath, relax and become more aware of what you are doing and hearing and seeing and feeling. Get in the habit of paying close attention.

But I do think it's normal to sort of discard a lot and only remember a little.