LustyArgonianMana

No true scotsman fallacy for women's sexuality? Lol.

Yes, sex clubs enforce rules regarding consent as best as they can, so someone like you who isn't used to clear communication could benefit from going and speaking with someone and understanding what that's like. It could tell you more about yourself.

I will say that most of the same people who play DND, go to Comic Con, Renn Faires, are at sex clubs. They even have DND nights at some sex clubs. DND also gives people an ability to understand consent including with what we discuss, and to be able to have meta discussions and step outside of our egos.

most men’s experience is that women are barely comprehensible

No, that's just you and some younger and inexperienced men. Women are just people. People are people.

recently got a new room mate and on the first evening we randomly chatted about our music taste for 2 hours straight.

You're gay. That's not the fault of women.

Women don’t even know what they like themselves.

Yes, they do. They just don't tell you because you give off unsafe vibes. They literally don't trust you so they pretend to not have opinions en masse. Reflect on that.

Some inexperienced sex partners may not know what physical acts they like, but they can generally describe porn or other fantasies they like as a starting point if they trust you.

When pressed to make a decision on the spot they tend to divert.

Yes, if being pressed by another person arbitrarily to make a decision, many people retain their power by refusing to give you an answer. This annoys you so you try to triangulate them with men's behavior. It's not that they can't make a decision, it's that they are checking your sense of entitlement in demanding one from them in the first place. Why do you get to police women's decisions? It's simply that you extend patience to men and don't rush them, or otherwise you'd be getting these power struggles with them too. You like men. Be honest about it.

The more you say men are victims compared to women, the harder I beat my male subs while laughing maniacally and they thank me. Your opinions on women are wrong. Abortion laws alone, the laws that will make it so married women can't vote because they had a name change, the laws affecting transwomen, all show we don't have it easier.

https://weta.org/watch/shows/independent-lens/half-sky-turning-oppression-opportunity-ep-1

Usually if a man complains about his comfort it’s not because something simply bothers him but because conditions have gotten borderline hell-like.

This is an example of being a bad communicator and also being unaware of your boundaries (emotionally or physically unaware and uneducated).

You spend a lot of time assuming you know what women think for someone claiming he's a man. Are you sure you consider yourself a man? This is all heavy pickme energy, a self hating woman, and it's just wrong. Like watch Sex and the City or like Sarah Silverman or Sex Lives of College Girls or whatever. There's a million examples counteracting what you're saying. So why rabidly stick to this weird, rigid narrative?

Do women think that men aren’t scared if other men, and what they might do?

No. They don't think that.

Why is fear monopolized by women?

It isn't

Men try to keep themselves happy because who else is going to do all the dirty work that need to be done to keep this rock spinning?

Women disproportionately are in fields with child rearing, nursing, veterinary work, cleaning, and cooking - very dirty jobs that are necessary. That you dismiss women's labor as nothing is misogyny.

Also, we ALL are keeping ourselves happy because anything else is codependency and we are mature adults who take care of our own feelings. You're not entitled to the emotional labor of women. Get a fucking hobby like DND, go to a nerd shop, make friends in your community.

that same mindset justifies inaction in themselves

or there’s some people being actively, intentionally discouraging

Agree. It's impossible to discern intent imo, but it is super wild how many people think this way, to the point where I actually think they should be considered a different political movement (or lack of movement).

These politics at their core are fundamentally different than my own, even if they claim similar morals or stances. I believe that not using your rights is functionally the same as not having those rights, and people should automatically always enforce their rights by default. And I can even respect people denying themselves something like their right to remain silent to prove by challenge the existence of other rights, eg right to free speech or protest.

And to be fair, this other person DID offer a solution about impeaching state congressmen, which tbh I hadn't pursued yet but will be discussing with a quickness since we are definitely at that stage. It will take research though because every state is different and has different reps ofc.

I'm not going to list everything I am helping to organize because this is open for rightwingers to see and Nazis used to lurk my account and have sent me death threats, edpecially worse since the election (which is why I changed from being a Dominatrix advertising account which had my nudes on it, to a political account trying to give people news and information). This account alone has HOURS of labor by me, and I have 2 other accounts on other platforms that I extensively use as well to try to combat the massive online psyops.

And that's the thing - we all have different talents. Just like in TF2 or WoW or a million other games, we need a Tank, Healer, DPS, right? Don't yell at the healer for not doing DPS, don't yell at the DPS for not healing, etc, and instead celebrate and help people improve on their strengths to network and build community. A petition is a small act, I understand, but it counts and there are people who maybe have never done ANY political act, who will start with the small ones. Everything good is good. Progress is progress.

There are extremist sects of Islam (not the vast majority of Muslims, who are extremely charitable and who invented the first hospital, which was free, among many other things) that have incorporated acid attacks on women as a form of what they see as valid punishment, yes, and they have supporters who think this is a good thing to do and that the women deserve it for tempting the men. It is not ONLY people in these groups or who are Muslim who do acid attacks ofc, acid attacks are a global issue.

I have seen interviews and discussions by women who've been attacked with acid and that is what they describe in terms of public sentiment ("she deserved it,") and thus their advocacy work centralizes around changing those beliefs.

https://resurge.org/stories/two-acid-attack-survivors-meet-for-the-first-time/

https://pulitzercenter.org/stories/acid-attacks-pakistans-worst-social-epidemic

Here's a brief list of countries and some incidents and explains motivating factors for the attacks: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acid_attack

Oh, these are independent websites. Not sections of Reddit.

Here's an example, the Ray Peat Forum (renamed Low Toxin Forum), I'm not a member/believer of those ideas, but I trawl through their studies sometimes for research with other stuff (better than r/science sometimes), and I love their fights so much: https://lowtoxinforum.com/threads/this-guy-says-he-has-found-the-holy-grail-on-how-to-remove-excess-copper-iron.53550/

To find this forum, I believe I typed in something on a search about fat soluble vitamins and forums (or discussion board) and it came up. I take time to sift through results (go a few pages deep to find the lower SEO results) and see if the forums I find mention sister forums. I then will search stuff like, "Is Low Toxin Forum reliable?" and see who is talking about the forum and what they have to say.

This doesn't work super well though for politics, stocks, news, or crypto, I've found - those forums tend to be scammy for some reason. But ironically I've been on several gambling forums and those aren't nearly as sketchy.

No, and your sex ed is incomplete if you don't understand this.

No, not every activity is consensual. What consent is, is a deeper question and interaction than what you're making it out to be.

Consent is the foundation of sexual education and sexual interactions.

Freedom of speech is separate, and no, you don't "need the consent of everyone in the room to talk about something," but then you're operating outside of consent, and you may violate emotional boundaries. That includes triggering survivors who may not have expected you to violate social norms and who would have told you, "hey, I don't like talking about sex in front of people because I get panic attacks."

These interactions, being between more than 1 person, require the input of the other people. It's not a great look to force people into accepting sex as you see it or want it.

The US does love eugenics, this is true

That anti-vax rhetoric and "measles party" rhetoric are so unbelievably bad, I think it's psyops put forth by foreign governments meant to kill Americans deliberately. And with Hegseth removing large portions of cybersecurity, it's only going to get worse.

We need a government social media that allows us to sue mods for freedom of speech violations, and allows us to host and have a centralized area for town halls and city concerns, eg like local FB or Reddit groups.

Until then, whatever, I won't shut up and they will have to keep banning me. I'm only on these "big" socials to let people know this stuff, otherwise I stick to niche independent forums that focus on 1 special interest. The difference between posters there, who are real and human and there to discuss the interest instead of psyop, and the posters on big socials, is night and day. The little indie forums don't really need to ban people because they aren't the focus of psyops, and so you get to see a wide variety of opinions and less of an echo chamber. Idk, I miss the old internet

Where did I say that's all someone should do, or all that I did?

If you mean involving them in it, then yes, probably

There is NO "probably" about it. We have brain scans and decades of research proving it is EXTREMELY HARMFUL to children. There are children who've been in sex cults, including in the 70s, who have been interviewed as adults regarding this (to say it profoundly negatively affected them). The most common environmental factor for DID is childhood sexual abuse, and the severity of the DID is usually correlated with the severity of the abuse. Suicide is also extremely common in children with a sexual abuse past, as is heavy substance use in children.

Sexual abuse results in automatic behaviors like bedwetting recurrence after being potty trained, defecating in odd places or playing with feces, masturbating in front of others, dissociation, depersonalization, UTIs and other urinogenital issues... So much so that mandated reporters look for these signs in non-communicating (disabled) kids as signs they've been sexually abused to trigger investigations. No one has ever told these kids how to respond to sexual abuse - their bodies automatically do it. It is automatically harmful at a human instinctual level.

It's 100% absolutely harmful and that has been proved by DECADES of research. I'm disgusted by that sentence, and the fact that you haven't bothered to research that but researched THIS:

Reformation based on my relatively surface-level dives into the subject in the past (I have learned that going deep into this is difficult, the scholarly texts are long and difficult to read for laymen). In medieval times and before, children were aware of adults having sex; they often could not be kept unaware because there was no place for the adults to gain privacy.

Why the FUCK did 14 people up vote this shit, Lemmy?

https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=effects+of+sexual+abuse+on+children&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart

Go do some fucking reading, you absolute pieces of shit

And OBVIOUSLY we should teach kids age-appropriate sex ed.

? I'm a Dominatrix, my experience of women and as a woman is that they are excellent communicators (women are actually famously good communicators) and not indecisive (unless you're trying to be pushy and force them into something they dislike?). Both men and women who are new to exploring their sexuality will not know what they like, but that's just part of being new to something.

I've gone to sex clubs, try it some time. They usually have strict consent rules and staff to help deal with conflicts. Saying No is not usually an issue there, because there's rules in place for how to approach women and what you must do when they say no.

If a woman isn't interested in discussing sex with men she doesn't like, she doesn't have to. It's important to have and express boundaries - that's a key part of healthy sex. That includes a boundary of not talking about sex with men she doesn't want to.