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The foundation of sex is consent. If consent (including hearing about it and discussing it) is absent, then it is torture.
And I literally mean rape and sexual assault should be considered torture, because they are and they have the same effects on the brain as classic forms of torture, and indeed both SA and rape are used as a form of torture in war. Look at the mass rapes in Ukraine. It's not for sexual gratification, it's to torture people, and they also happen to get off on it.
People have different boundaries around what they discuss, especially personal info. It's important to respect that.
If you want to experience a less inhibited place, I recommend checking out a sex club.
People talking about sex is not torture. Get a grip.
It is if it's not consensual.
Verbal and emotional abuse are still abuse, still count as harm, and psychological abuse is so effective it is used in psychological warfare.
Physical abuse is to physical torture, what verbal&emotional abuse are to psychological torture.
Maybe learn a little about consent so you stop harming others. I've already given you an example of why someone may not want to discuss sex (past trauma), but also, given your personality- they may find YOU distressing to talk with and not a safe person. And by your own words, you aren't.
You are torturing me with your username. Why do you want to harm me and the rest of Lemmy?
Haha was about to say the same thing, they be riding that high horse forgetting their roots
How so? How is the adjective Lusty, equivalent to forcing women and others to speak about sex when they don't want to and feel uncomfortable about talking about it?
Lusty, an adjective, isn't equivalent to describing sex acts that may trigger people, or asking them to engage in sexual conversation irl for the sake of normalization when they may not want to.
Why is consent and respecting people's boundaries so hard for you all? Why do you need to try to find ways around consent? So curious, why are you doing this?
And you know, I do wish harm on you, as much harm as you put on others. May you be treated as consensually as you treat others. My curse to you and all reading this.
Because guess what, self defense isn't abuse.
Stop bellitling your own behaviour. You know what your username refers to whole you ignore it. You are raping me and everyone else here. Why is it so hard for you to believe that your own behaviour can be out of line? Why is it that your abuse is not abuse while the rest of must think about our selfs?
What?
You consented to read and interact with their comments at the moment you signed up and logged in. From then on whatever happened, you chose and made it happen
Argumentative comments trigger me, please stop torturing me. Ask for consent before speaking in this shared space.
I'm fine with you experiencing emotional pain like guilt for things you've done wrong. It's not my job to manage your emotions anyway.
You can't demand behavior from me - that's not a boundary (hint hint).
It's too bad arguments trigger you, but that's not a trigger I am willing to step around much as simple conflict is part of communities and is not equivalent to discussing sex with people beyond their boundaries in any way. You're of course welcome to leave the conversation or block me - enforce your boundaries. Which is what people are doing when they don't talk to you about sex, you're violating their boundaries and they distance themselves from you as a natural consequence. You have the same options here as the other scenario of someone being given a panic attack because you have to talk about sex in a way that violates their boundaries. That being said, irl there is harassment, so even the law understands things like emotional boundaries. Harassment doesn't extend to answering someone back on an open forum, though.
It's so funny, men who are mad women won't talk about sex with them and then they do stuff like this. I never have the issues you all have, and it's because it's a you thing in how you treat others. I just... lol.
You know they are just pulling your leg, don't you?
No, they aren't. They are justifying abuse because they are abusive. Are you proud to run defense for them?