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[โ€“] [email protected] 50 points 11 months ago

Finland: Greeting each other?!?

[โ€“] janonymous 21 points 11 months ago

Here in Germany it depends on the region. But even within one region it can be different from friend group to friend group.

I grew up in southern Germany with handshake as default greeting. Except women often get a hug instead. If you know someone well it's more likely to greet with a hug with men grasping each other's hand before a short hug and slap on the back. However, if you see them a lot you might just give them a nod. On the others hand id you haven't seen them in a while they get a hug.

In East Germany, where I live now, it seems to be much more common to hug your friends. Interestingly some will put their head on the right, reaching with their left hand over your shoulder. Which can be very awkward, when you are used to the opposite and almost kiss.

[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Kiss on cheek for informal, handshake for business. Hugs are for people you haven't seen in a while, in addition to the kiss

[โ€“] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Over here, we kiss our business partners, and blow them too if needed. Anything for that contract.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Life was different when sallers paid kick backs under the table to the people in charge of purchasing

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Each to their own haha

[โ€“] Funkytom467 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The real debate, how many kisses? I do two.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

One from where I'm from, typically :)

[โ€“] [email protected] 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Here in China it's basically nothing. They don't even have to greet you. They only do the formal stuff with people they need to be chummy with. Sad but true.

I'm an expat here, and it applies not just towards me but to any Chinese-Chinese new acquaintances.

Japan was totally opposite and awesome, bowing to an old lady and getting into conversation with her was one of the most memorable experiences for me.

[โ€“] cashews_best_nut 3 points 11 months ago

I want a Japanese grandma. Maybe I could go and kidnap one someday.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago (2 children)

No touchy-feely here. Touching people from different gender is improper, while touching people from the same gender is gay (unless you're a girl). Can you guess which country is it?

Imagine my surprise when I visit a country where hugging and kissing (on the cheeks) are the norm when I was in highschool. I was like a deer in headlights. "My relative never even hugged me, yet these complete strangers greeted me with hugs?" and "this girl kissed me on my cheek when saying goodbye? Wtf I never even did any handholding with a girl before?!"

[โ€“] ambitious_bones 5 points 11 months ago

Unfortunately I can think of several Countrys this could be. My first guesses would have been the US or somewhere Middle eastern?

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

Ha ha, I don't think I'm from your country but I had a somewhat similar experience (we hug, but definitely not kiss if just friends)!

I got a girlfriend there, and for me kissing someone, wherever it might be, was very intimate. So I kissed here on the cheek/beside the mouth when we parted ways at school (kissing on the mouth seemed a bit too much in front of everyone, and I hadn't seen people do it for a short good-bye). Man, it took me some time to understand why she was angry with me, she thought I just showed everyone we were not a couple but just friends!

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago

Mexico. Definitely a hugger and kisser country. Except man to man, that's suddenly a handshake situation, unless you are close you get a hug, or if you are too close (father and son, for example) you may get a kiss.

[โ€“] obinice 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

UK: Neither, there's handshakes for professional introductions and such but if I'm greeting someone normally, a friend, family member, etc, I'm not trying to touch them at all.

[โ€“] cashews_best_nut 1 points 11 months ago

I agree with the above but will add I'm a minor oddity in that I'll find any excuse to give people hugs unless it's formal.

I'm a very 'huggy' person.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago (2 children)

For men: formal handshake. For women: anything goes. Between men and women: awkward figuring out what to do.

Location: Netherlands.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

After Covid there are new confusing options including fist and elbow bumps.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Also men and women who are close friends: How many cheek kisses? Who the fucks knows nowadays. Just do 4 to be sure.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Depends a bit on context, but let's assume you're meeting someone new that's being introduced to friend group (friend of friend).

  • US: mainly handshake, rarely 1 cheek kiss
  • UK: mainly handshake, rarely 1 cheek kiss
  • Argentina: 1 cheek kiss (men & women), sometimes handshake only for men
  • Spain: 2 cheek kiss for women, handshake for men
  • Switzerland: 3 cheek kiss for women, handshake for men
[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

I think cheek kiss in the uk is very much a thing for the older generations. I've only ever seen millennials and below do it to the elderly and usually it's someone they know, not someone new.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

Dunno what it's like in other western/European/Central European/Slavic countries but here in Poland, if you're a boy, you're deprived of hugging by around 6th year of life, started noticing youth nowadays it's more huggy than in my times (beginning of the century), I remember getting a man hug from a fellow student (friend?) because of my 18th birthday, and thinking to myself 'wow this hugging thing is kinda nice'

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Depends on who you're greeting. And it's the flu season, now.

[โ€“] ambitious_bones 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I was particularly curious about friends and people you are somewhat close with. Does it really change where you are depending on the season?

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Most of my friends hug. I'm from Germany.

Well, since Covid happened some people have become more aware. And currently everyone is annoyed at work because half the people are sick at home and you have to compensate. The other half goes to work but they're also sick and sniff and cough and spread the viruses. I'm vastly exaggerating. But it certainly feels this way. I've stopped hugging my friends so we can make it to christmas and don't mix the viruses ;-)

I think the majority of people don't care that much.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Handshake in Hungary.

However in my friends group it's often hug, especially when we haven't seen each other a long time. I like it. It's nice.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Handshake for men, kiss on cheek and/or hug for women/family/close friends

[โ€“] NorthWestWind 2 points 11 months ago

Handshake is a pocket size hug

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Hugging is only for close friends or family. Strictly handshakes otherwise.

[โ€“] Iron_Lynx 1 points 11 months ago

My country is more of a three kisses kind of place, though within the subcultures I deal with it's more hugging.

[โ€“] MonkRome 1 points 11 months ago

USA, Minnesota. People hug but ask if you're a hugger first.

I think it's funny that only 2 options were given. In India the norm is clasping your own hands together and saying namaste, nomoshkar or some other greeting. No touching. In east Asia a very slight bow is incredibly common.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago

The US is too big and diverse to generalize, but I was raised with a "hugs for family and friends, fistbumps for social equals, handshakes for formal situations" heuristic.