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[–] wintermutehal 93 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect

[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Yeah, the dread of seeing a new notification in the inbox turns out to be something pretty chill surprisingly often

[–] JPJones 11 points 1 year ago

UR FACE IS PRETTY CHILL

[–] wintermutehal 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I still had the dread before opening this. Wonder if that ever goes away

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Psst…im in your inbox…feeling the same dread. (Please dont reply, i might not be ready for another reply yet 😆)

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[–] KeenSnappersDontCome 7 points 1 year ago

I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.

Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.

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[–] kismattic 18 points 1 year ago

That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It’s small enough that I can say something mildly controversial without getting dogpiled by a mob from /r/SomeEchoChamber

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[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 year ago (4 children)

i think this is my third commemt, already almost equal to the amount i made on reddit in all those years i was there.

[–] kismattic 19 points 1 year ago

Love to see it! Welcome to the party! Honestly this is the most I’ve really done anything on social media stuff so I totally get it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

I find myself commenting more frequently on Lemmy as well. I attribute it to there being less comments in general so less has already been said. By the time a post shows my reddit feed there's already hundreds of comments and the discussion is already pretty well laid out. At that point I don't really have anything meaningful to add.

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[–] Asclepiaz 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] kismattic 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Thank you for participating in the Lemmy reply social experiment! Your reply has received a reply!

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (6 children)

and even worse, sometimes they even reply days later!

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Switch off notifications, never know the difference RollSafe.jpg

[–] kismattic 11 points 1 year ago (8 children)

But then I’d never see your amazing advice! Although, would I have needed the advice in the first place?

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Lurkers using third party apps were in many ways worse impacted by the API changes than those actively participating. The high cost of API access is only worth as much value as the service is to you, and if lurking that's going to be lower and less likely to be worthwhile in the few third party apps switching to the subscription model.

[–] kismattic 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was a lurker on the first-party reddit app for the 99.9% of the time I was on there. The ads had just gotten out of hand with not being able to block an ad to get a different ad, I was so tired of getting “He Gets Us” trash so I switched over to Apollo. A week later they announced the API changes. I work in software dev so it’s just frustrating seeing this happen to all of the people out there trying to support their hard work.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep, I used Relay Pro previously but seeing the cost breakdowns the dev posted for the new subscription was disheartening. The dev's portion of the subscription fee is near zero if you use near the limit of you subscription's monthly API requests. So at that point even subscribing isn't really supporting the dev as much as supporting the company that forced these changes upon us. So I chose to not take part.

Lemmy definitely isn't perfect, especially for smaller communities. But it's definitely workable and something I'm happy to contribute to.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I always want to comment but notifications can be so stressful that on most platforms I usually end up just lurking. Lemmys been pretty decent so far, it reminds a little of early internet messageboards where most people were more into discussing something interesting than trolling or one-uping someone for internet points or ego boosts or whatever weird reasons people are assholes on the internet. It's probably the least toxic platform I've been on since the livejournal days

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[–] AFaithfulNihilist 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I have found the commenters on Lemmy to be far more thoughtful and reasonable even when they are tearing me apart as a human being. Most commenter seem to be really nice and enthusiastic though.

Maybe it's just a volume thing and we haven't attracted enough of the shit heads yet to overwhelm every thread with nonsense.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Yeah, wtf! Stop replying to me!

[–] kismattic 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I wouldn’t dream of replying to you, that would be a nightmare to do such a thing that would go against the wishes you have of not being replied to at all, again, a thing I would absolutely not do, as to retain your respect!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Thank you very much for not replying. I really do appreciate it.

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[–] illumrial 15 points 1 year ago (3 children)

But what if I'm scared to reply?

[–] kismattic 9 points 1 year ago

That’s okay! Nobody is ever pressured to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing! Take all the time you need or don’t even worry about it.

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[–] JPJones 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] kismattic 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Noooo! Don’t be sorry! Everyone is great!

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Funny how attached people become to numbers in internet.

What's the exchange rate between Lemmy and reddit karma points?

[–] kismattic 13 points 1 year ago

Whatever it is in our electric skull meat gives us the joy of seeing number go up. The value the number has, that’s another story.

Oh goodness, a Lemmy/Reddit currency exchange sounds like some startup NFT/crypto scheme waiting to happen.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (8 children)

uhhm actually people never reply

[–] Kase 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh yeah?? Bet you feel pretty stupid right now >:)

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] kismattic 12 points 1 year ago

Lawyers hate this one simple trick

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[–] TSG_Asmodeus 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] martinbasic 12 points 1 year ago

I usually upvote comments I agree because sometimes I'm empty-headed, cannot think about something to comment at the time.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago
[–] Palindromes 11 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Lol I still lurk, I have no idea why I don't like to comment

[–] GojuRyu 10 points 1 year ago

I oftena don't feel like I have anything to add to the conversation that hasn't been said, so I just end up lurking most of the time. I do comment more than I'd usually do to help the platform, though that admittedly isn't much.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No one could have predicted this!

[–] kismattic 9 points 1 year ago

I shouted to the void, expecting nothing, but the unmistakable sound of a FartyShartBlast echoed in reply.

[–] ApatheticCactus 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] kismattic 13 points 1 year ago

That’s alright, as long as you know that I believe in you!

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