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I’m really curious where else everyone here hangs out on the internet besides Lemmy.

I myself am frequently on discord with my wife and friends playing games. I’ve also found myself in and around smaller blogs spaces like Kev Quirk and related people. Reddit used to be a place for me to hang out but I never found a community that I felt connected to. I don’t know if YouTube would be considered a place to hang out, but I frequently spend way more time there than I should. IRC used to be a great place for me.

So, where are your favorite places?

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[–] hperrin 49 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I like Mastodon, but I gotta say, Lemmy has basically taken over as my go to boredom relief app. When I’m not on Lemmy, I’m probably on YouTube.

Then there’s work: GitHub and email.

And play: Steam.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago

I don't get the whole twitter-like microblogging thing. Mastodon feels kind of strange to me because it's similar to that. I try to find a cool place to hang out there, but it always feels like a waste. But YouTube... the amount of time I give YouTube.. lol

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I'm still on IRC! There's a raw simplicity to it that I appreciate. You don't have to use a bloated Electron app to connect to a proprietary service, you can just go straight text on the protocol-level in terminal (if you're nuts), and the protocol is open and simple enough to understand that you can easily make your own client even if you're a lazy or mediocre dev.

So IRC, Lemmy, and I guess Instagram (if that counts)

[–] [email protected] 22 points 7 months ago (3 children)

What IRC servers still exist that allow random people like me to just join but have interesting people and channels and not just trolls and spam?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago (5 children)

I second this question! I'd like to know some good servers with healthy communities.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 7 months ago (7 children)

Ever since Reddit killed itself, the only places I really lurk are Kbin (and therefore Lemmy by proxy) and Discord. That's pretty much it.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago (5 children)

I have ignored Discord for years until recently. It just seems like IRC with a lot of flashiness and emojis. Is there more to this experience? I don't intend to be disparaging, but I looked for some specific topic servers and just found the quality of discussion to be low and the experience to be chaotic.

I'm willing to be told I'm doing it wrong though - is there a "here's the right way to get into discord" approach I'm missing?

[–] TeaHands 6 points 7 months ago (8 children)

Discord shines when you use it with a tight-knit group. A RL friend group, a gaming clan, etc.

But there are a ton of these big public servers that are essentially just spam, because that's what happens when you collect a load of random people in one place who have one minor interest in common at best, and then try and get them to hang out socially.

It's a group chat app, not a forum. And being thrown into a group chat with 100 strangers is kind of the worst.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 7 months ago (1 children)

98% YouTube and 2% Lemmy

If rest of the internet dissapeared it would take a while for me to notice.

[–] Feidry 11 points 7 months ago (13 children)

I'm like 90% YouTube, 2% Lemmy and 8% just googling random stuff. Celebrity facts, historical events, programming problems, stuff I want to buy. YouTube is king though. Kinda hate that I waste so much time on it.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 7 months ago

Honestly, I read more, do more gardening, play more videogames. Kinda a weird benefit, but I joined two book clubs and a walking group. Started going to a parenting group on Sundays so my kiddo and I are making more friends. I guess reddit just pissed me off enough to go out and be more in my community. It's kinda nice.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Reddit (only subs related to living in Japan since those didn't migrate here), kbin/lemmy, fark (though I almost never comment anymore), and an old-fashioned forum/bulletin board (more stuff related to living in Japan).

Edit: and I guess YouTube? 99% of the time, I'm watching from my TV which doesn't have comments or anything.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Hacker News, mainly.

Sometimes I log on to Reddit to help travelers to my country or hobbyists trying to learn engineering. I try to avoid discussion on Reddit as the quality is often not high, e.g. lots of tourists asking how to commit crimes in my country -- better to just not answer.

For discussion I go here, it's much more interesting.

IRC has always been pretty cool. I might go back to that one day. For now this is just the part of my life where I try to make money and don't have much time to socialize.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Which IRC servers are worth some time?

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[–] jecht360 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

At this point it's mainly Lemmy, Imgur, and Discord for me.

[–] chagall 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Do you just look at pictures on Imgur? Are there actual communities? I’ve only used it as a place to upload pictures to link on Lemmy or Reddit.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago (6 children)
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[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

XMPP MUCs, IRC, some Matrix Spaces. Lobsters, Mastodon.

I refuse Discord. I really wish I could refuse Microsoft GitHubβ€”source code doesn’t need to be a proprietary social media plaform.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

if it isn't for work related stuff, there are some self hosted github alternatives like gitlab, gitea and gogs

they might have less features tho

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

YouTube has kicked the wasp nest by blocking Adblockers. Lots of drama over there

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

What's weird is that you can still use ad blockers just fine while you're logged out. So I just open the videos in a private browsing tab to watch them, but in a regular tab to rate or comment.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago (15 children)

Since leaving reddit with the migration, I'm now on Kbin, tumblr, Tildes, and playing somewhat more regularly on Subeta and Dappervolk.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago

If it counts, I know a lot of people hang out on VR chat. It's a very common misnomer that you need a VR to run the platform, most of my friends don't even bother being in VR they just use it in desktop mode. I expect you probably meant more text-based, but I wanted to throw that on the board as well

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

Reddit for niche topics, Imgur for weird and funny.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I still use Instagram to keep up and chat with friends and Facebook only because my kid's school only posts there

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

The obligation to stay on Facebook for things like this is so frustrating at times. It feels like LinkedIn, where I have it because it's the only place to get some information.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (4 children)

I only hang out here, been spending way less time browsing online, which I'd say is a good thing. Been playing more video games, and even reading.

Also I'm curious about Discord, when people say they hang out there, do they just find a channel they like and keep up with the chat all day?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Twitter and BlueSky. Shifting more so to the latter the worse the former gets.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago (9 children)

No Mastodon? I always assume all of us lemmy people use Mastodon (if they are into the twitter kind of thing).

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Forums. Those of interests that interest me, specific games forums, OS forums, comic book forums, forums.

Lemmy is just a weird poorly-designed forum I also read.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

TV Tropes is absolutely packed if you ever want to join.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

According to my Android phone:

Sync for Lemmy in second or first place most of the time, same for Telegram.

A bit of Discord and Sync for Reddit too.

Firefox random searches.

A bit of Meta apps (almost zero use of Instagram, but it vary with Facebook, WhatsApp and Messenger, usually FB is the winner).

Feeder and Feedly at the very last (I get my tech news right here).

YouTube I use it a lot, not on mobile but my Shield TV

[–] thorbot 5 points 7 months ago

This is it. And board game geek. And discord.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

My routine is, in this order, Lemmy, Mastodon, Tumblr

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

YCombinator's HackerNews mostly.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

IRC, assorted mailing lists and forums, Matrix, Mastodon and occasionally Reddit (blasphemy, I know)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Lemmy is my go to when I have downtime and want to mindlessly scroll but I’ve been really into making things lately so I’ve been on GitHub for fun trying to understand how other projects work.

[–] kaffiene 4 points 7 months ago

Mastodon mostly

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

Even though I'm technically not hanging out with people, I like to occasionally look through some of the different sites on Neocities to see what cool things people have made.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Matrix, lemmy, mastodon, mumble, im not a fan of irc I have an xmpp, i dont use it often tho I also have signal for irls

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Ive used discord, trying to run away from it

If anyone wants to chat im down my contact site lol (idk if thats self advertising)

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Discord for games with friends, and for a couple niche pieces of software too small for forums.

Lemmy for broad-appeal topics like world news and less niche tech.

And Im not sure if it still counts when I just lurk now, but Reddit for everything else, since none of it moved over to lemmy. Gaming subreddits, more niche tech, history and accedemic topics, local and lifestyle stuff, ect.

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