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Nobody really gets disowned for voting for a particular candidate because voting is private and done in secret. You can lie about who you voted for and nobody can even prove it.
People actually get disowned for constantly talking about voting for a particular candidate, even after their friends and family ask them to stop.
They made their choice to put their politics before their family and need to cry publicly about it to get that sweet persecution complex.
Social psychologists have long understood that merely identifying with a group in competitive contexts can lead people to view those outside the group less favorably.
Ah yes. It's because they are on the other team that proud Trump supporters are being ostracized. The fact Trump and his allies have blatantly advertised goals that are dangerous, damaging, bigoted, hateful, and generally horrific... and their poorly hidden goals are even more so... has nothing to do with it. It's just competition bringing out the worst in the rest of us.
I mean, ingroup and outgroup biases are well demonstrated phenomena.
But uh. Sometimes things aren't JUST biases. Sometimes the other team is, well and truly, bad and worthy of our scorn.
This reminds me of https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html
At least the reason for estrangement is clearly not missing in the situation(s) being discussed.
Gullibility and ignorant malice are an epidemic. Hate and stupidity are an epidemic. Estrangement is self-preservation and a symptom. We aren't boomers, we don't stay in abusive relationships because "that be how the world be".
Maybe its just that I was disowned in 2015 for being trans, but I find it hard to be sympathetic. We choose who we vote for and if your loved ones say your political views are so reprehensible that they won't speak to you, either take the cue or accept that you shit the bed and now you have to lie in it
Two-thirds of survey respondents agree that ending contact with a family member because of political beliefs is not justified and that most family fights over politics could be easily resolved.
Ah yes those pesky, abstract “political” beliefs shouldn’t get in the way of family. Such esoteric ideals like
Who could ever let a silly disagreement over politics spoil a relationship? /s
It’s hard to be told “everything will be fine” when much of the incoming administration believes trans people aren’t real/shouldn’t exist/are all groomers. And it’s really difficult to even associate with folks who voted for this and refuse to see the coming storm.
Fucken, not to compare everything to nazis but it is LITERALLY the “first they came for x, but i am not x so i said nothing”, only it’s the fucking PARENTS hearing THEIR KIDS say “I don’t feel safe” and saying nothing except “can you believe my crazy children?”
I am recently estranged from a narc parent.
Unfortunately in my case, it isn't both of them. I have tried to explain to the other why I can't roll with it, but it has been very difficult. Collateral damage, but I feel like I have no other option.
Scruples are about the only thing a lot of us have anymore.
This suggests we may need to put in extra effort to take responsibility for our role in conflicts, show greater empathy for others’ values and perspectives
Hah! That's pretty much exactly what I've said to my (right wing) relatives on a number of occasions but it doesn't work. Does the author not realize that this perspective is very liberal?
Liberals and progressives are the folks with empathy that can't fathom how anyone could vote for Donald Trump; a well-known grifter, actual criminal, tax cheat, and total scumbag who cheated on all of his wives.
I have a ton of empathy yet I still don't understand conservatives. The only thing that makes sense to me is that they're authoritarian and their chosen authority tells them to hate certain people, that any given thing is a conspiracy, and that no government-run program is ever a good thing. But to tell them that to their faces is like telling them that they're stupid and suckers. To them it's incredibly insulting.
Yet when you try to figure out how they (someone who lives off Social Security) came to believe that, "Mexicans are stealing our jobs" it's the only thing that makes sense. They really are suckers. They may have been "smart" at some point in their life but not anymore. They choose how to vote based on anger at imaginary enemies and fake news.
Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit: There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.
They want Order. Specifically, an Order where everyone is put on the Proper Rung of Society and Keeps to Their Place. And of course their Place is above X (insert minority group here) because they are Special because of Y (insert ridiculous circular reasoning—usually racist—here).
These people literally believe that if Society becomes Unordered, it will collapse. And of course the only ones who can maintain that Order are the Great and Glorious White Men. The proof is that all the richest, most powerful people are White Men! (Any rich, powerful person who isn’t White and Male obviously got there through DEI action or cheating somehow.)
Innuendo Studios has a pretty good video on this in his Alt-Right Playbook series.
Yes, and my favorite example of metaphorically watching the same movie, but seeing a different story is the phrase, "law and order." Plenty of us see the word Order and think of civil order, of happy communities of people going about their business without danger or conflict. The right and alt-right hear Order as social hierarchy. Black Lives Matter is a threat to Order just by existing, as Black people trying to move up to a higher rung on the social ladder than they belong on.
Similarly, we hear Law as rules that everybody follows to ensure peaceful coexistence (order). They hear Law as in "the law," as in the exercise of power by authorities, either to maintain the hierarchy (the old right) or just 'cuz it's fun to hurt people (the alt-right).
he proudly voted for Donald Trump every time he ran and never hid his political beliefs from his family.
This sounds like an extremely euphemistic way to say he would not shut the fuck up about Donald Trump and his political beliefs. And his family likely gave him every chance in the world to quit that shit, and when they eventually just stopped wanting to be around him, he blamed everything but his own shitty behavior.
I don't know if that's what happened in his case, but it certainly sounds like it.
Oh no! People are socialially ostracizing fascists.
Anyways, I hope it doesn't snow today.
Maybe he just shouldn't be such a snowflake. As they say, facts don't care about your feelings, and the fact is that every single Trump voter tacitly approves of what a repugnant human being he is.
You are the company you keep.
Too bad, so sad grandpa. Do better. Be better. BE BEST.
I don't really care, do you?
It’s crazy and it’s tragic.
take a drink every time a narc parent uses the words 'weird' or 'crazy' to describe being treated like the horrible person that they are.
I'm having a hard time relinking narc to mean narcissist and not narcotics in my mind. 😔
Yes, the grandfather is hurting and is clearly the victim. It cannot be due to his own choices and his children calling him out for being a shit person.
ACAB
"Choosing bonds of identity over familial obligations" has judgemental connotations.
The thing about "bonds of identity" is that those people respect your right to exist and your personal agency. The family that deserves to be cut off does not.
If you've had it explained to you multiple times why the decisions you make are harming the people you claim to love, and you don't change your behavior, don't be surprised when that person you say you care about tells you to piss up a rope.
And for some of us we've built a culture around it because family has historically failed us as a community
Celebrate adult children calling out their boomer parents on their hyperindividualist bullshit
What are the odds this guy wept for the CEO and wants to see the suspect executed?
How Assholes Have Become an Epidemic in America
When asked to reflect on how their actions and choices have lead to their families cutting them out, they responded "We've tried nothing and we're all out of ideas!"
Like so many problems in modern America, you can trace it back to Reagan.
Back in the day, it was important for politicians to try and maintain a civil tone with one another in public, no matter how much they despised each other behind the scenes. Reagan publicly used 'Liberal' as a pejorative and implied that those who disagreed with him weren't really patriotic.
Nah, the absolute god king and bastard father of ratbag politics is richard fucking nixon
I just want to point out that McCarthyism existed before Reaganism. But he was a big fucking fan of it.
Womp fucking womp
It would be more than that if people had a place to go and a way to get there.
Also it's not just trumpism, it's that your family can be intelligent but fall for grifters... or they will be kind 90% of the time and then without prompt will casually say something really fucked up at dinner.