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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by subarctictundra to c/adhd
 

The outside observer probably thinks I am mentally ill (I evidently am). What do I do??

Edit: Post yours guys

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Lol that's a rookie mess. You need to start way more projects that you're "going to finish any day now" and let them all sit for about 5 years.

[–] B0NK3RS 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

The endless amount of hobbies that never seem to stick...

[–] AreaKode 4 points 1 month ago

But you can't entirely quit because of the sunken cost.

[–] dai 3 points 1 month ago

Nah they all stick, but priorities are priorities.

New shiny is much higher on the to-do than the stack of #TODO in my git or the half finished stack of 3d printed parts, or that access point that is begging to be put back together.

It's good having variety, I'm able to bounce between things while never really getting bored of one thing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Haha true. (Un)fortunately most of my hobbies are on the computer so I don't have that much physical clutter

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I cleaned up while I was in my last meeting

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

This mess actually feels quite cozy. I like it :D Also your setup is super cool!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Wow, thank you so much! It took me forever to figure out (and motivate to make happen)! I get so little encouragement in life, this is wonderful!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Nw :-) Did it use to be far more chaotic before the meeting where you tidied it up?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

I admit to nothing

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I wisch I had a workplace/laboratory like yours.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

If it makes you feel better, it’s in my parents’ house. But in 6 months I should be ready to purchase my own.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago
[–] junderwood 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Is that G20 Semiotics I see on the right? Noice.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Cool setup! I wish I had thar many monitors.

It would SURELY fix my problem keeping track of tabs.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

None are very good monitors. They're all 1080p. I want a 4K monitor badly, but I have spent too much money lately (Goddamn online dopamine-fueled shopping addiction!). Anyway, the one on the far left is just a Walmart brand ONN and was less than $100. Also, people give away monitors all the time. Check Facebook marketplace and join your local Facebook Buy Nothing Group (I know, I hate Facebook, but it is good for these types of groups for me (also mechanical keyboards, and action figures).

[–] Thcdenton 9 points 1 month ago

Pff amateur

[–] Rhynoplaz 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That's not bad at all. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Haha I suppose... It's more of the trend that unsettles me than the actual amount of mess

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

If potentially having mental illness is bothering you, see a doctor about it.

I got diagnosed in my 30s and holy damn meds changed everything. I took adhd meds for first time and 45 mins later remember thinking ‘is this how normies are all the time? You can think something and just do it?? No prep, no build up?!’

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

My wife has been trying different meds for months with her doctor and so far nothing has helped. I really hope she finds the right one that can make her feel like you describe. :-/

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

This is true. I have actually been to the doctor and he gave me stims, but that's where it ended at. The stims definitely help me focus and give me the patience to do stuff like reading, showering, and homework, but they don't affect the underlying neurodivergence in any way (ie. I'm still annoyed at change, still struggle to Go Out And Do Things in life). :(

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

but they don't affect the underlying neurodivergence in any way (ie. I'm still annoyed at change, still struggle to Go Out And Do Things in life)

Have you talked to doctor about those? You may have to seek out psychologist and/or therapist to get answers you’re looking for.

I wish I could go back and get diagnosed sooner. I barely remember my 20’s due to major depressive episodes. But I’m happy I’m figuring it out now instead of 10 or 20 yrs from now!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Dude, that's me on meds, fully cured. Need more unused cables, 3 keyboards (although there are only 2 computers), the old broken mouse, hand lotion, tooth picks, several old food wrappings / jars, important letters all in between, a folding rule, dental floss (where the heck DO you even floss?), mosquito spray, new envelopes, masks, used envelopes with "important" hand-written notes, several pens half of which work, expired credit / insurance cards, vitamins, Covid tests and test wrappers, where is your cup and glass for water?, ironically a duster, 1 extra 1st gen TFT screen from 1999 that's not attached to anything, who knows what's underneath.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Hahaha agreed I'm definitely not the worst. I've visited friends whose places were also like what you describe

[–] Cris_Color 3 points 1 month ago

This is the ebike I started like 3 years ago and am anxious about even thinking about because it reminds me of the weight of all the fun plans I had, surrounded by half emptied moving boxes from more than a year ago, and draped in christmas lights from when I was in a mental health episode doing the bare minimum to decorate last year 😅

At least I don't have to do the bare minimum to decorate in a mental health episode this year, the decorating is already done!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Get everything out. Do your step 1 in the project. Good so far. Rinse and repeat.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

You can't make me!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Right now I'm lying in bed, I want to share it because I think this is the first time in my life it has been this clean.

[–] vatlark 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What do the clothes pins do?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Oh, they ensure there's a gap under the bottom of my laptop. Otherwise the fan would be blocked

[–] vatlark 2 points 1 month ago

That's clever and simple.

[–] n3cr0 1 points 1 month ago

Everything at once!

[–] cheese_greater 0 points 1 month ago

Wish i had done this for my past monster messes before i cleaned them the shit up :(

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 weeks ago

This seems pretty normal. Boring even.