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[–] spankmonkey 29 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm not really an international man, only been to Canada a couple times.

[–] Crackhappy 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

To Tijuana you go, young man!!

[–] spankmonkey 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Well, it is roughly the same distance either direction...

[–] Crackhappy 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Aha, so you're in Medford?

[–] spankmonkey 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

In Kansas, center of the continental US, so similar disance to Canada and Mexico.

[–] Crackhappy 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Ok, I get it now, but you replied to me, and I specifically said Tijuana, and Canada is definitely much closer than Tijuana to you. You sly dog. :)

[–] spankmonkey 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

The good parts of Canada are just as far away :P

[–] Crackhappy 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Are you going to break into a stirring rendition of "O Canada" now? ;)

[–] spankmonkey 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No, but I do have the urge to make pancakes with maple syrup...

[–] Crackhappy 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As long as it's not Vermont maple syrup I think you're ok.

[–] spankmonkey 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's gotta be moose juice!

[–] Crackhappy 3 points 1 week ago

Moose milk is unreal.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Crackhappy 3 points 1 week ago

3 mins of intro before he sings... nice. haha

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago

Lol no. No one really cares about me and my fellows, only what we can provide.

[–] MedicPigBabySaver 16 points 1 week ago

Happy "Men's day"!

I hope you all have a support system in place that helps with your stress, anxiety, depression, etc.

Men need to help our brothers and be more vocal and honest about struggles.

I wish you all best wishes and I hope for peace on Earth.

[–] Mannimarco 15 points 1 week ago

No not at all

[–] jewbacca117 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

What does one do with international mans day? I celebrate being a man every time I go to the bathroom.

[–] Zachariah 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I don’t really celebrate each time I go to the bathroom. It’s more like being relieved.

[–] Crackhappy 8 points 1 week ago

very LOUD golf clap

[–] Mango 2 points 1 week ago

I do that at night with my toys.

[–] PugJesus 9 points 1 week ago
[–] Iceblade02 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I very nearly missed it myself, noticing a small post with a handful of comments on another forum a few minutes ago (not federated), and it's less than a half hour left before 00 and the end of the day.

No mention in the news, or on the radio, or in the fediverse, or by anybody irl. It honestly feels a bit melancholic.

[–] Mango 3 points 1 week ago

I saw one other post here.

[–] themeatbridge 1 points 1 week ago (4 children)

What are we celebrating? Is it like toxic incel shit or raising awareness for men's health issues?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The latter, but like all good things some toxicity leaks in from the fringes.

[–] themeatbridge 2 points 1 week ago

I'm all in favor of talking about men's issues, but those are always overrun by troglodytes angry about women somehow.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

Not just health issues, but yeah, that's the idea.

[–] Mango 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] themeatbridge -2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Mango 3 points 1 week ago

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[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There is the real question. Many "day of X" are to raise awareness of some issue. There are some real men specific issues in society that should be addressed, but I get the impression most will be toxic about it instead (I wonder how many are doing this to smear men's issues). Of course the issues men face in society are overall not too big a deal, and I'm not sure it is worth a day (a long with most other things that get a day)

[–] themeatbridge 7 points 1 week ago

I don't like the idea of comparing the relative struggles of various groups. Everyone is dealing with something, and somebody always has it worse. That doesn't invalidate the struggle.

In fact, I'd say that's one of the struggles men deal with. We're often expected to soldier on, man up, tough it out, walk it off, etc etc. Men who talk about vulnerability or pain are met with derision and scorn. But stress, anxiety, trauma, isolation, physical and emotional pain, everyone should feel worthy of asking for help. We do deal with discrimination in some forms, and talking about those issues shouldn't be intended to compare to social injustices women have been dealing with.

Where it veers into toxicity is when we compare our struggles, and use our issues to dimish the issues of other groups.

So if it's a day of positivity and support, I'm all in. If we made a day just because we felt left out of all the other days of recognition and support, then that's the wrong message.

[–] Deadeyegai 0 points 1 week ago

I'm gonna mansplain even harder. Just try and stop me!