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What was the dumbest way that you lost a friend? (lemmy.autism.place)
submitted 12 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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[–] zerozaku 4 points 7 hours ago

I used to have an online friend who never really texts me first unless I do. Since they're a leftie, I wished them on Happy Left-handers Day and they replied that I don't need to wish them, which I only did to spark some conversation. This put me off and I went "Alr I won't bother texting you ever" and they went "Ok".

Haven't texted them in 3 months, neither did they (as they don't ever). Idk who is the idiot here, me, she or both.

I don't really like ending friendships from my side, so I might text them on her birthday and see how it goes.

[–] Suck_on_my_Presence 6 points 8 hours ago

I bought tickets for a concert for us both provided she drive. She never showed up and didn't answer her phone or anything but was somehow mad at me a few days later.

[–] ch00f 9 points 9 hours ago (3 children)

I canceled on the biweekly DnD session because it was scheduled for Halloween and I had plans. Told him a little last minute (day before when I realized).

Dude torpedoed our 10 year friendship over that.

[–] IlIllIIIllIlIlIIlI 1 points 47 minutes ago

Could it be the last straw?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

Agree with other responder. End of October was.. Stressful. Way more for some than others. This might be one of those situations where trying an "Are you OK?" would be all that's needed to start mending.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

Was that this year? Halloween wasn't too long ago, maybe he was in a bad mood/unstable situation. You may recover if he reconsiders, it feels a bit extreme to burn a decade old bridge just because of that

[–] Psychogasm 19 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Friends; plural. I quit drinking.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 hours ago

Sounds like a smart way.

[–] Clbull 2 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

A mutual friend of ours got into an argument with him because he made some new friends at his local pub and was buying pints for them left, right and centre. He took serious offence to the suggestion that they were using him for his money (he got about Β£120k in inheritance after his mum died) and cut both of us off, even though I never said anything to him.

I don't want to elaborate on his backstory but he had a lot of mental health problems and past trauma. After a lot of bad things happened a few years ago, he decided that he was done with life and vowed not to outlive his cats. Have tried to talk him out of it but he's set on ending his own life after his cats pass away.

I presume he's still alive, but I can't get in touch with him as he nuked his phone number and blocked me on all socials.

[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Lost all my friends every couple years growing up thanks to the US military moving us around. Do not recommend.

Got a great dad out of the situation though so I’m not bitter. Much.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

I'd bet, even if he doesn't say it, one of your father's biggest regrets is that you didn't have a stable location and set of friends. And if it's not, I'd suggest not bringing it up. Realizing that after all this years could be pretty traumatic.

[–] EvilBit 7 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

My best friend and I suggested online that maybe this friend of ours stop using β€œgay” as an insult (this was around 2009 or so) and he and his girlfriend became adamantly defensive and mean. When they implied that my best friend was molesting his beloved dog just to be assholes, I just cut the cord and walked away. They were idiots anyway.

Fun fact: the girlfriend was, and is, a huge β€œdo good” volunteer advocacy leader. So, you know, help each other out, but don’t get in the way of my homophobic slurs.

[–] Today 12 points 12 hours ago

Lost (sent away) two who tried to 'date' my husband.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Mad she didn't get invited to a concert my GF bought tickets to. Welp

[–] 13esq 3 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

I mean, if my friends knew I was a huge fan of the band, were going and weren't like, "tickets are Β£50, do you want one?" It would sting.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Thats a specific situation you're imagining and isnt necessarily what happened

[–] 13esq 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

I did realise that it's a specific situation but as the original post didn't have more context, I didn't see why I shouldn't be allowed to suggest some.

If OP wants to expand on the situation, they're welcome to.

[–] theywilleatthestars 8 points 12 hours ago

Whenever I wanted to hang out she was at volleyball practice

[–] [email protected] 3 points 12 hours ago

I forgor πŸ’€

[–] yool_ooloo 1 points 12 hours ago

neglect