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[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Lost all my friends every couple years growing up thanks to the US military moving us around. Do not recommend.

Got a great dad out of the situation though so I’m not bitter. Much.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Same except my dad was a PhD who never could get tenure anywhere because he has malignant narcissism and makes every workplace he goes to toxic.

[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You win. My dad's nice. My mom's the narcissist but pretty mild compared to a lot of the other shit I've read from people who grew up in that kind of home.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ya but I don’t wanna win :(

[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce 5 points 1 month ago

I know man. It was empathy not congratulatory. I hope you’re doing ok. Not sure we ever truly get over the things our parents did to us though.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

I'd bet, even if he doesn't say it, one of your father's biggest regrets is that you didn't have a stable location and set of friends. And if it's not, I'd suggest not bringing it up. Realizing that after all this years could be pretty traumatic.