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Most people just want a good life. If we stopped seeing each other as the enemies the world could be better.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I have been struggling with this lately. I am staunchly anti violence and anti war, and yet, I am conflicted on how far I truly would be willing to go to cull classism, fascism, racism, transphobia , homophobia, misogyny, and pedophilia from the world.

These things are abhorrent to me, and I wonder how much of my humanity I'd be willing to sacrifice in exchange for even one of these to no longer being in existence amongst the ranks of humanity.

How much good does pacifism give to the world in promoting the better angels of our nature? How much harm does it do when those same principles allow the worst among us to march down our roads and drag away our loved ones in the night?

Two scenes from media I consume have lately continually resurfaced in my mind. One is this scene from Vinland Saga, where the main character's father confronts him when he finds his sword. The father is about to go off to war, and somberly asks his son who he wants to kill with his father's sword. This culminates with the father, who again, is about to go off to war, emphatically declaring to his son that he has no enemies, that there is no such thing as enemies.

The other is this scene from Star Wars Andor, in which a high level spy of a burgeoning Rebellion is asked by a compatriot (who wishes to quit fighting the Empire due to possibly being found out), asks what he sacrifices for the fight against the Empire. The monologue he delivers is chilling, acknowledging he sacrifices all things that make him human, he becomes like his enemy in order to defeat them. When he reflects on the question, and asks, "So what do I sacrifice? Everything!"

That...is what I believe I will have to give up in order for there to be a sunrise for the people I love tomorrow. I'll have to give up my humanity, everything. And I am afraid. I am selfish. I don't want to. But I don't know any other way.

The feelings that scene stir up in me resonate because that is how I feel when I think on the fascist cancer that has once again metastasized in America. Having no enemies... if only. Truly. Having enemies robs me of my humanity, because in fighting them I must bury my humanity. And I know that once I do that, there's no going back. There will be no redemption.

The thing I am struggling with is... am I the one who makes them my enemies? Or are they? And if the only thing we can agree on is that we are enemies...then what choice do we have when they come for me and those I claim as my kin?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

cull classism, fascism, racism, transphobia , homophobia, misogyny, and pedophilia from the world

One of these is not like the others.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No. Some people want to control other people because of their various sky daddies or a simple greed. And those are the ones fucking up your life. Everyone else could more or less get along, but fanatics, billionaires and other people hungry for control of others are actively make sure we don't.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

fanatics

Half of Lemmy users included in that group

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

Some are fascists. Some are not. That's a pretty big distinction.

[–] Zacpod 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I'm not sure that's true. One side has empathy. The other does not. I don't want to be friends with someone who doesn't have empathy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

They see the world as a zero sum game. They can't imagine being happy unless someone else is unhappy.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

The world is not binary like that. Your side is not all good and the other side is not all bad.

[–] Zacpod 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I didn't say they were "all bad." I said they lacked empathy and I wasn't interested in being friends with them.

Conservative and progressive brains are different.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/conservative-and-liberal-brains-might-have-some-real-differences/

And one of those differences is empathy. https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/18/1/nsad029/7175525

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One side has empathy. The other does not.

You generalized as if everyone on the left has empathy and no one on the right does. That’s simply not true. Group differences like this are often larger within the group than between them. While it might be true that, on average, people on the right are less empathetic than those on the left, it’s neither fair nor accurate to imply that one side has empathy and the other doesn’t.

[–] Zacpod 0 points 1 day ago

Eh. Fits with what I see in politics, the folks voting for right winger, and my own experiences conversing with them IRL. I see no issue with making that assumption and then being pleasantly surprised the odd time it isn't true.

Maybe it's a North America thing, tho. It's quite possible that the euro flavor of right wing is a more empathetic group.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

One would need empathy to see it that way ;)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

Empathy is something that can be learned like any ability, it isn't always a binary you have it or you don't.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

I kind of see your point there. My hope though is that maybe people could gain more empathy for each other by understanding that we are all human and I hope that one day people can understand each other's struggles.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

You make this argument and it immediately falls apart because people revert to "Well they want to do this, this, and this, so they actually are an enemy"

You see it here in these very comments. If you are different from the "normal" you will eventually be hated, regardless of whoever is in power. It is human nature. It has not changed, it will not change.

People, families, tribes, nations have risen to power and subsequently lost power. It's cyclical and will continue until we are inevitably wiped out by ourselves or the universe.

[–] GreenKnight23 0 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

"I am vry smrt. Boog Brian here"

When someone wants to take away my freedoms or human rights. they are the enemy.

what you said is like telling a rape victim that they didn't ask if their rapist consented to raping them and so they asked to be raped because they didn't confirm they were indeed being raped.

wtf is wrong with people. bad people do bad things. punch bad people in the face and get it over with. we don't need to understand why they did it. fuck them up.

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[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Actually, I'm special. The right told me my parents told me so.

[–] Iheartcheese 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm more special. I look down on you derisively.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Exactly what someone who's just like everyone else would say tbh

[–] Iheartcheese 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm so much more like everybody else than you.

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[–] aesthelete 6 points 1 day ago

Yup we're all idiots

[–] 9point6 4 points 1 day ago

Paradox of tolerance

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

I think of people who vote for bad politicans as useful idiots.

The average voter actually believe trump will make things better. There are people to somehow still believe trump isnt a racist. I don't know whats going on with their brains.

Like, of course there are those who are bigots and want more bigotry in government, but there are also many who are not exactly hateful racists or misogynists, they simply aren't that smart and easily get swayed by social media posts.

Think of them as victims of a scam (well, except that this is a on a much bigger scale and have more serious consequences 🙁)

I mean I don't expect people to forgive them for what they voted for, I mean I personally would have a hard time being around those types of people, but like, would you tell your grandparents: "It's your fault you got scammed"

I feel like a hypocrite for saying this, because on an emotional level, I hate hate everyone who voted for the fascist. But then when I think about the situation with my rational part of my brain, I realize people are just idiots and fall victim to the fascist scam. Its not necessary the person, but its that this is what our species is. A biological machine that although capable of rational thought, can still be easily manipulated.

Yelling at a person and telling them that they are stupid isnt gonna get them out of the scam, but talking to them might.

We aren't in a civil war yet, there might still time for dialogue.

[–] Tehdastehdas 2 points 1 day ago
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago

This is true, but some of us are actually very different. That's not always a bad thing, either.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Yes, it gets problematic as soon as extreme positions and mentalities enter the equation. All extrem positions are toxic, extreme left, extreme right, extreme religious (any religion), extreme fans of a sports club, extreme anything doesn't matter.

If we could find some kind of balance, some true middle ground without huge extremes, then the world would be a much nicer place.

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