Your numbers are incorrect.
Men: Harris 42%, Trump 55%
Women: Harris 53%, Trump 45%
It was a 20% swing in gender.
Black people are a large exception to the gender demographics. Black men voted 77% for Harris, and Black women 91%. It’s possible the comments you’re seeing about men are intended to be directed at white men who influenced the results over every other sex and race with 60% support for Trump and 34% of the total vote.