Just back from dinner with the guy who organises the local Meetup dining group.
I'd dropped into the conversation when he invited me to a cafe that I wasn't looking for a relationship right now, just to lay it on the table, then after some messaging that was pushing the boundaries and some blatantly flirtatious behaviour in front of others I had to have a stern talk of the You're Making Me Uncomfortable Back Off variety.
So he walked me home, came in briefly to meet the cats and then I drove him home making it plain that I was just going to drop him home and run.
So what does he do? Ask me to stay the night!
Firstly NO, secondly I've never left the cats alone overnight and I'm not going to start now, thirdly I Told You I'm Not Interested Several Times Jesus Christ. π€¦π»ββοΈ
I think he's more of a clueless scungie type - I know the breed from Uni God knows - but seriously, which part of I Am Not Interested does this guy not understand?
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He understands, he just doesn't want to accept it. It's not about swaying you it's about making you so uncomfortable that you'll say yes just to get it "over with".
He doesn't care about your feelings or consent. And do not let him into your house again.
Hun. Not after a relationship. Just a root. Urrrt no. Kick.
No means yes or possibly yes to some people, no matter how clear you are.
No is yes because some men get off on non-consent as well. Ugh UGH
THIS.
be so careful
What is up with men who can't take a hint? Unfortunately not uncommon with some meetup groups :(
He thought you'd be swayed by his confidence.
Yikes.
This guy was being wilfully oblivious, ignoring all boundaries and just trying to take advantage β³οΈ
Maybe next time don't ask boundary challenged guys in to meet the cats
Ugh I have no idea why you are downvoted - I agree wholeheartedly with this.
Do not allow men into your home who have already ignored your consent. Not victim blaming, but people perceived as women must be careful in today's world what with the utter disrespect and violence towards AFABs/women/femmes.
exactly, don't invite trouble in to your house
One good thing about being flooded is a double rainbow:
Double rainbow all the wayyyy πππ
What does this mean oh my god
I read recently that the double rainbow guy died but left a heap of footage to continue his YT channel which is still going four years after his death.
Long day... cranky... not a drop of moisture all day, but I just managed to miss the rain and got to come home to silky kitty and a bit of silliness (=much-needed energy expenditure) with the feather toy. Thank god I have food in the fridge... rest my tired soul with the sound of rain and a nourishing meal. I'm spent.
Tonight it's singing practice. I cancelled my plans so I could have the evening to myself to get my voice back to a usable state.
I miss performing so much. I just love the vulnerability that you feel when you're giving a part of yourself to strangers for a short while. Putting yourself out there.
Music had been such an important part of my life. Every step of the way music has kept me going when I felt I didn't want to. I could always rely on making music for catharsis.
And I think that's what makes it such an important part of my life. I feel like everything is bottled up unless I'm playing regularly.
/end over sharing rant
π we love you fluffybutt
I was flash flooded down here on the bellarine. Holy fuck I've never seen rain like that. Every gutter was overflowing. Here was the start:
Been spending the last 2 hrs having an intimate conversation with a bucket. I have not seen this level of water down here before.
It was pissing down hard in Heidelberg but only for 20 minutes or so. It looked like the Bellarine and Mornington got all the extreme stuff.
Hope you don't have much damage.
we had 10 drops and one flash of lightening
Whoop de doo... I knew I had it going well for a while, but just as I'm looking at having to drop my overall hours because I am simply not coping with doing it all and trying to finish degree, I get an email from the landlord about upping the rent to 550/week (15% increase).
Pour one out for me, this has just ruined my weekend. Landlords do be collecting more and more for adding zero value...
She's said she's open to negotiation but I really suck at working out a middle ground. Too many emotions. I'll have to sleep on it. Why did she have to send this on a Friday night.
When you have the spoons, check similar to your housing in the area and whether it matches what they are proposing, if it is generally below their amount, you have some kind of negotiation power.
Just had a company meeting about raises. I don't quality because I just started, but they gave everyone:
2%
You should have seen everyone's face. The mood in the meeting plummeted instantly.
I'm expecting some resignations in the next few weeks.
The beatings will continue until β¦ every employee is 18 and doesnβt know any better
We love an effective pay cut
Exactly. I'm staying for 12 months and grabbing the certs I need then I'm out.
That's barely covers inflation these days. It just make sure you're taking home the same realised income as the year before
I feel like peopleβs behaviour has got a lot more out of line since the lockdowns. Just me?
spoiler
Lock down did a real number on people and we barely even acknowledge it anymore.
Theres a psychic wound that was inflicted on a lot of people.
I think it changed a lot of people.
FEAR grief and anger
I am the great cornholio! I need tp for my bunghole.
And it isn't just you, people are just that much more inconsiderate. I blame lockdowns, but also the general state of the world right now - wars, rescinding rights, needless death, no ability to buy a house, pollies are landlords and two faced scum, far right bullshit, climate change... I can understand people reacting with general disrespect when it doesn't feel like this world will last, and we suffer.
But I also believe in times like these, we have MORE of a duty to be kind to one other, to show compassion and grace. And that is severely lacking within the general population. Their attitudes compound upon the state of the world and just hurt us even more than we already are.
Fed the kitty this morning and we went back to bed, cuddling sweetly⦠she stretched her arm, dropped it and punctured a single secretly sharp claw into my eyelid like a fishhook.
After a delay of refusing to get up it was washed with antibacterial hand soap and dabbed with Betadine so fingers crossed. I have a spare box of antibiotics ready to go.
But yeah, that was literally half a centimetre from my actual eye.
Reaching out
Touching me, clawing you
Sweeeeet Mother of Jesus
Fuck fuck fuck πΆ
My WhiteBoy used to wake us up by delicately inserting a single claw into a nostril
Congratulations Mumma and Pappa Peregrine Falcon on the safe arrival of chicky no.3 only minutes ago. Cheers πΊ
However some of youse here have disappointed me greatly today. Lucky I don't hold a grudge. Cheers πΊ
I removed the work profile and applications from my phone.
Not anymore guys. No thank you.
Today is reports day. Excel and PowerBI can fuck right off lol
1 down, 4 to go!
Well that's a first. Found a stick insect on my subwoofer. I don't think I've actually seen one before in the wild:
It has been put back outside on a tree. But glad to see there's another real junglist saying wicked.
This most definitely calls for a rave choon:
Considering it was on the subby... Suicide bassline!
Some nights are in perfect sync. Beer, soju, slash, smoko. On the hour. Then the rest of the hour singing.
At least you found some sort of narrative. Itβs a small miracle