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[–] Leviathan 79 points 1 month ago (1 children)

There's different types of weird. There's uncle bad touch weird, and there's I like to collect insects and stage little lectures for my dogs on my day off weird. Different weirds.

[–] afox 32 points 1 month ago

How much are the tickets to your show?

[–] Phegan 64 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Life became so much easier when I fully embraced how weird I am, and stopped caring if people thought I was weird.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago

This comment, is a role model.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I think people who embrace their own little version of weird are less judgmental and generally happier and more confident.

It becomes an endearing trait, rather than a sore spot.

[–] NikkiDimes 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I just had a little cry because I hate how weird I am. I hope to one day transcend and join you.

[–] three 17 points 1 month ago

Remember that peoples opinions are their own prison. Life is long. Building is much harder than destroying. Small steps.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

The vast majority of people don't care, the little that cares already know how weird you are.

Embrace your weirdness, worry a bit less and have more fun.

It won't happen overnight, but everytime you catch feeling bad because your think you are weird, just own it. It already happened at that moment, nothing you can do about it right now.

You will feel a lot less insecure as time goes on, you might not even care at one point.

[–] Xanis 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

little girl tugs on her mother's sleeve

"Mom...why is that person wearing, um...that??"

Mom, confused, looks around

"Honey, you know you shouldn't ta~" she stops as her eyes find the source of her daughter's confusion.

"Mommy?" the girl asks, uncertainty in her tone.

"D-d-don't make eye contact, honey. I'm uh sure he has his..." she stops, mouth agape for a moment before recovering, "...and now he's screaming at that garbage bin. We're gonna go! Come on, honey!"

in the distance

"I FEEL SO FREE FROM THE SHACKLES AND CONFINES OF THIS ONCE JAIL OF CULTURAL IGNORANCE! THIS BIN! THIS GARBAGE BIN REPRESENTS THE OLD WAYS. THE TRASH WAYS. I HAVE ACCEPTED MY WEIRDNESS. MY ECCENTRICITIES ARE OPEN TO ALL!"

Phegan was never heard from again after this moment.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I completely disagree. I don't think the nerd being bullied for liking anime is "bad weird", nor do I think the creep who doesn't care when people call him out for staring at women is "good weird"

[–] chiliedogg 32 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The people who see "weirdness" as being bad are the "bad weird."

The anime kid hates being bullied, but he doesn't see non-conformity as a negative. It's not the label of weird, but the negative sentiment behind it that hurts.

The white supremacist who sees diversity as an evil doesn't mind people saying he hates black people. What he hates (aside from minorities) is being identified as an "other" through the weird label.

[–] Xanis 3 points 1 month ago

Meta. I appreciate that last sentence.

It's a cultural node, social norm, expectation blah blah. What it comes down to is perception. We all belong to different groups. Many of these groups overlap. Sometimes we have niche interests that don't quite align with the others. As you draw circles intersecting circles and push people into these groups, the further a circle is from another, the more likely there will be a form of conflict.

This perception is linked to expectation through a lack of understanding. In some cases all of this is caused by fear, which is hidden behind anger. Ignorance creates this diversity of opinion and as those circles, or nodes in sociology, grow, the reinforcement of an idea grows with it. Adjacent nodes receive some of this growth until eventually something happens and a new node is formed creating a niche platform.

Some comparisons below:

A mechanic may not like computers. A computer person may like cars. A car person may not be a mechanic. A person who drives a car may not be either a car person, computer person, or mechanic. Yet a person who likes to play video games on a PC may not be a computer person and still likes playing games about cars. While a car person might still enjoy anime despite that being perceived more as on the computer side of culture.

See how all of these find a way to interlap? The "weirdness" shows up when groups are formed that fall outside of these interactions, and yes, entire connected groups can then become niche and isolated. A certain National Socialist German Workers' Party is a fantastic and horrible example of how perceptions can shift and niche opinions grow, pulling adjacent groups with them, and eventually splitting, often done by linking distant, loosely linked threads and yanking them to form a strangled web of bullshit.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Took me a sec to understand your comment, but yeah I agree. Generalizations are just that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Context!? Here?! Are you insane!?

[–] TrickDacy 36 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Not sure I exactly agree. It's more like if you or your friends are able to call yourselves weird, you're probably alright. If "weird" is what you hurl as an insult constantly at anyone you don't understand, you probably suck.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago (3 children)

One day I called a co-worker weird. Simply cus the dude was acting odd.

A whole thing broke out where he was extremely insulted at the remark and wanted to never talk to me again until I went farther than I should have to apologize.

Thinking about it till this day... Dude that's just fucking weird.

[–] TrickDacy 20 points 1 month ago

Yeah, it's a ...weird... word. Can be playful, a term of endearment, a reality check, or a horrible insult. And it depends completely on the context. And some people maybe just have trauma from being bullied and called weird all the time as kids. I'm guessing maybe that dude had experienced something like that.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

Did it ever occur to you that some people spend a lifetime being labeled as weird, or any other variation of "different," in ways that suggest or directly say they are wrong in societal view?

Especially some neurodivergent might just be fucking tired of it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Define 'farther than i should have'

[–] Agent641 10 points 1 month ago

With tongue

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Also: are you neurodivergent and have you had that word constantly applied to you in abusive ways

[–] stormeuh 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

For many people, including me, part of recovering from that abuse is accepting that you're significantly different compared to the average person. If you're ND and can't accept that, you might be masking and that can be really harmful.

That being said, there's still a difference between being called "different" or "weird", and if the latter is being hurled at you with malice by friends, they might not really be your friends...

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Oh i know i'm weird, and i'm fine with it.

I'm also Queer (and born in the 70's) so i treat the two words with the same nuance. Certain people are allowed to call me those words. Others can keep a fucking civil tongue in their heads

[–] Aceticon 3 points 1 month ago

There is a weird tone (pun intended) for an insulting kind of weird, one for an "acknowledging one is out of the ordinary" kind of weird and even one for a complimenting (even envious) kind of weird.

[–] TrickDacy 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah. I never have been diagnosed as neurodivergent but I've suspected I could be. But either way, I've heard the word used derisively all my life :/

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[–] Coreidan 28 points 1 month ago

Life gets easier when you realize literally every single person is weird in their own way.

[–] systemglitch 22 points 1 month ago (5 children)

That's some super faulty logic btw. Lots of good weird people would be quite bothered to hear anyone call them weird.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

Yes but how else could the poster feel like they'd scored points on a man who doesn't even know they exist?

[–] Aceticon 4 points 1 month ago

Further, I would say that people actively trying to be seen as weird don't have a good kind of weird - generally, shapping your life base of "what will other people think" isn't very healthy, and that's true both on the side of trying to align with what you think is the general oponion of others as on the side of trying to align against that.

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[–] dohpaz42 19 points 1 month ago (6 children)

It’s sucks having to qualify which kind of weird I am. Could t we have found a different word to use? Bizarre and abnormal come to mind.

[–] MegaUltraChicken 51 points 1 month ago (2 children)

As someone who also qualifies as "good weird", I think we take the bullet on this one. Seeing how upset it makes them is a decent trade.

[–] bestagon 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I guess. I feel like we’re always getting thrown under the bus :(

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago

Been called weird my entire life and idgaf anymore - it lost it's sting a long, long time ago. If it bothers them, that's fantastic.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Embrace it. I have a bumper sticker with a rainbow unicorn on it that says "stay weird". Have had it for at least half a year now.

[–] systemglitch 4 points 1 month ago

Can you provide an example of someone upset by this? The only place I see it is in the comment section of Democrats, and I went looking for someone being offended in r/conservative. Didnt find one example in 15-20 minutes of scouring comments.

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[–] Diplomjodler3 19 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I like to think of myself as neutral weird.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

chaotic weird, checking in

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Tbh, I've probably always identified as lawful weird.

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[–] quicksand 18 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Wow, I thought weird had already been reappropriated by us oddballs. From reading through this thread, it seems like that's not the case. So I just wanna say, keep on keeping on fellow weirdos. Keep life weird

[–] samus12345 5 points 1 month ago
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

"That weirdo who tries to melt those black rocks"

You get it? Almost no progress without weirdos.

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