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Ex-Incels, how did you dig yourself out? (poptalk.scrubbles.tech)

submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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I'm an ex incel myself, but I've been seeing a few users here exhibiting the tell tale signs. "I'm not attractive enough", "I don't socialize correctly", "I'll never find a woman" - all extremely unhealthy attitudes.

Personally I burned through many friendships and ruined a lot of chances with women because I was in the incel community. The community warped my view of women so much that I made it even harder to meet women, I became my own worst enemy. I lost friends because all I could think of was how horrible it was that they had girlfriends.

I have a friend who helped me out of it. She was the one who started calling out my bad behavior for what it was, and I started on the long uphill path out of it. I'm now married and stable for well over a decade, but I still think back to those days, and it depresses me seeing other people causing this themselves and not being aware of it.

So, Lemmy, for those who have clawed out of it, what's your story?

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[–] Don_Dickle 0 points 4 months ago

Any introverts here? or ex introverts that would like to do an AMA come on over to https://lemmy.world/c/amarequests

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago

I volunteered. So, no longer involuntary.

[–] GladiusB -1 points 4 months ago

I had two sisters and I was the only brother. If there is any way to tell you that you don't have any right, it's that. Trust me. They know more and they will fuck you up if you even try it.

People have their own choices. Seeing it as a quest in a video game isn't a reality. It's a shared experience and they need to share it with you. If they don't, then it ain't right.

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