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I finally cut my screen time from 8 hours and 55 minutes to 1 hour and 28 minutes (Proof at the end) (self.casualconversation)

submitted 7 months ago by saayoutloud to c/[email protected]

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TL;DR: In four weeks, I’ve cut my average screen time from 8 hours and 55 minutes to 1 hour and 28 minutes on average.

I know no one cares about this, but I still wanted to share it here just in case someone is facing the same problem and looking for motivation.

I recently finished my semester and got a summer break. My girlfriend and I planned our first big trip abroad, something we’d been looking forward to for more than a year. But after getting free from studies and exams, I got addicted to my phone, spending hours scrolling social media. My addiction started to ruin our plans and our excitement for the trip.

More than a month ago, my girlfriend spent a weekend finding resources to help me. She found an article with practical methods for different levels of phone addiction. Inspired by her effort, I decided to give it a shot.

Week 1 saw my screen time drop to 7 hours and 35 minutes on average, which made me very happy because I never thought anything would help me with my phone addiction. Even though I started with no hope, seeing this result gave me hope.

Week 2 brought it down further to 5 hours and 12 minutes on average. The key was a fun challenge my girlfriend and I did together to stay off our phones. Having her as my support system made everything so much easier.

In Week 3, I tried a $23 timed locker my girlfriend got from Amazon. It worked wonders, cutting my late-night screen time and improving my sleep. I ended the week with an average of 4 hours and 3 minutes on average. Despite a slight setback over the weekend due to feeling down, I’m happy with my progress, even though it was very little.

In the last week of this challenge, I kept up the same habits but added a new twist suggested by my girlfriend. We signed up for swimming classes and started going daily because we always wanted to learn swimming. It’s been fun, and I’m loving every second of it. I also started locking my phone for an hour in the morning using the timed locker. This helped me bring down my screen time to 1 hour and 28 minutes. While my initial goal was 1 hour or less, I’m proud of myself with my progress.

Honestly, I couldn't have achieved this without my girlfriend’s support. I’m incredibly grateful to have her in my life. Dating her was the best decision I've ever made. I want to write a big thank-you paragraph here, but I don't want to bore anyone.

Here is my screen time screenshot before I started: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JQVQaI1q7xgLUpojzx6osRci8zwwGWoJ/view?usp=sharing

Here is my screen time screenshot from the previous week: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TjBWCJyLDX29fdgdaq-UJ21X3osVcBhx/view?usp=sharing

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 7 months ago

Your other post got deleted, so I gotta ask here:

She found an article with practical methods for different levels of phone addiction. Inspired by her effort [...]

Would you like to inspire us, too, and share that article?

[–] MrNesser 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Well done

[–] saayoutloud 5 points 7 months ago

Thank you very much!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Gotta say, this type of post makes me feel like absolute shit.

I see someone overcoming an issue I have, then it’s “my girlfriend helped me..” or “couldn’t have done it without my wife” …

Guess I’m just fucked.

[–] alyth 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Message me if you want a real human TM to care about your accomplishments 😊

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

I appreciate you, I don't really have many accomplishments though. Just lonely and on my phone way too much.

[–] Missmuffet 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Congrats! Hope you continue to make positive changes that inspire others :)

[–] saayoutloud 1 points 7 months ago

I'll do my best.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I doubt it - you spend more than that just posting this to all subs there is

[–] saayoutloud 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm sharing this story with everyone so I can inspire others to work on their phone addiction before it takes over their lives. Phone addiction ruined my life, and I don't want anyone else's life to be ruined due to this.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Well done! Don't mind the previous commenter, you did well

[–] saayoutloud 2 points 7 months ago

Aww, thank you very much for your kind words.

[–] Speculater 1 points 7 months ago

Lol, I was thinking the same thing. It's been in at least four subs today, all with many many responses.