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[-] [email protected] 109 points 4 weeks ago

Littering.

When someone carelessly throws their trash on the ground, that says a huge amount about their respect for other people, their feelings about the environment, and even their views on social equality.

It's a tiny thing, but an immediate dealbreaker.

People who throw their trash on the ground are the same people who yell and get mad at minimum-wage staff, while those staff hold back tears. They are the people who take more food at a buffet restaurant than they could ever even eat. They are the people who think the world and everyone in it owes them whatever they want, but without ever giving anything back.

I bet we all know a person whose car looks like a scary biohazard of old drive-through cups they haven't cleaned yet, but I'd much rather date that person than someone who throws it all out the window.

[-] [email protected] 17 points 4 weeks ago

I think whether or not they litter and whether or not they return the shopping cart are two good ways to judge someone's character.

[-] [email protected] 82 points 4 weeks ago

For me its probably someone who uses tiktok.

During my last relationship my ex started using tiktok and for the few weeks she used it i had to listen to the dumbest "facts" as well as borderline malicious relationship and life advice. The bad misinformation is nothing compared to the repetitive nature of the music. She stopped using it on her own accord I didn't force anything.

I still live with someone who is a heavy tik tok user and almost every time she says "i saw this tiktok.. " I know I'm about to hear some dumb bullshit.

The app manipulates people, wastes their time and is full of undeclared product advertising. For my sanity I cannot date someone who thinks it's OK to use that app.

[-] CookieOfFortune 13 points 4 weeks ago

My partner totally asks me questions she hears from TikTok trends. Man vs bear, etc.

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[-] jordanlund 74 points 4 weeks ago
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[-] [email protected] 73 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Cigarettes

I just can’t do it. They’re trashy and they smell terrible. Almost universally friends/partners I’ve had the smoke cigarettes ash wherever they want- like my patio or door step. I had an ex that would chain smoke, ash in front of the door, then put the cigarette out and leave it on the steps.

So now everyone that walks by sees our entryway covered in ash, cigarette butts, and burn marks. Just looks and smells like shit.

That same partner kept an ash tray in the patio. It filled up with water when it rained, and she just… left it. So now the patio smells like soppy wet shit too.

Ever since then cigs are a deal breaker for me. If you don’t respect your body how can you ever respect your environment or relationship?

Anyway.

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[-] [email protected] 68 points 4 weeks ago

Uses spaces instead of tabs.

[-] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago

As someone who has primarily used spaces, I still use the tab key. I sincerely hope most space users understand that your editor can expand your tab key into spaces, and people aren't genuinely going around spamming their spacebar 2->16 times for various indentation levels.

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[-] stanleytweedle 60 points 4 weeks ago

Uses tabs instead of spaces.

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[-] [email protected] 30 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

But I don't want a GF who's gone through a compiler

[-] [email protected] 26 points 4 weeks ago

but she will be optimised for your hardware!

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[-] grasshopper_mouse 60 points 4 weeks ago
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[-] rageagainstmachines 48 points 3 weeks ago

Celebrity/billionaire worship. Just no. It means their values are wildly erratic.

[-] [email protected] 48 points 4 weeks ago

Mixes spaces and tabs in the same line

[-] Mr_Fish 30 points 4 weeks ago

That's not a trivial thing, that's a war crime

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[-] [email protected] 44 points 3 weeks ago

I have an ex with the same name as one of my sisters. You do that once, and it gets confusing and awkward. Twice? People start coming to really odd conclusions.

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[-] [email protected] 41 points 3 weeks ago
[-] SidewaysHighways 18 points 3 weeks ago

I wouldn't consider that trivial though

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[-] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago

My buddy said this for years ... until he found an exception. Oh, was she gorgeous and kind and just a joy to be around when she wasn't smoking. The universe has a sense of humour, and it's mean.

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[-] [email protected] 34 points 4 weeks ago

Misuse of the oxford comma and bad speling.

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[-] [email protected] 32 points 4 weeks ago

Driving slow in the left hand lane

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[-] [email protected] 31 points 4 weeks ago

Incapacity to discuss random topics just for the fun of it. Taking herself too seriously.

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[-] sugartits 24 points 3 weeks ago

She said "lol"

Like actually said "lol". As if it was a word.

Didn't laugh. Like, she replaced her laughing with this, saying "lol" when she found something funny.

[-] [email protected] 17 points 3 weeks ago

I say lol occasionally, only for things that are dumb funny. Equivalent of a snort I guess?

"Hey did you hear Steve bought a jet ski? Where does he think he's going to use it? The local pool?"

"Really? Lol. What a dumbarse"

Like that. If shit is actually funny I laugh like a human.

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[-] [email protected] 24 points 4 weeks ago

Horniness mismatch. You'll never synch up exactly, but if you aren't at least in the same ballpark, everyone just comes away frustrated.

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[-] andrewta 21 points 4 weeks ago

My home theater. I love movies and if someone said I couldn’t have it hooked up to the main TV I’d walk. I’d rather date someone who either enjoys it or at least it’s neutral on having there.

Also I don’t care if they have a garden. But it will be classified as a hobby, not as yard work or house work when they work in it. Because I’ll never work in one.

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[-] pastabatman 19 points 4 weeks ago

Incompatible taste in music. My taste is the benchmark they have to meet and I will not compromise, obviously.

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[-] RBWells 19 points 4 weeks ago

Picky eater or stuck on music from their youth.

Someone else mentioned libido mismatch, I don't consider that trivial.

[-] LucasWaffyWaf 18 points 3 weeks ago

I will say on the picky eating habit, that can be a common behavior seen in autistic folks. With me my picky eating stems from texture - if a food feels weird in my mouth I get nasty gag reflex or vomit. Doesn't matter how often I try, there's foods and ingredients that, if I chew on it, I will vomit. It fucking sucks. I have to swallow my edibles whole with water cause most gummies make me vomit if I chew them.

Obviously not all picky eating habits are autism related, but myself and the other autistic picky eaters I know are just as frustrated, if not more, about having those habits.

Being stuck on music though, that I can understand. Even with me having my comfort zones, it's always an occasion worth celebrating when I find an artist or album that absolutely SLAPS me silly from how rad it is.

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[-] KISSmyOSFeddit 18 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Pointy shoes with high heels.

They destroy your feet, make walking long distances impossible and show me she values unhealthy beauty standards over her own body.

Also, shaved and re-drawn eyebrows, for similar reasons.

[-] laughterlaughter 21 points 3 weeks ago

Guys, I don't necessarily agree with what OP said (I didn't downvote him, though), but why are you downvoting him for freaking answering the question?!! The question says "a trivial thing," (not "a reasonable thing") and OP answered with a trivial thing. Vote accordingly.

This is like downvoting unpopular opinions in a thread about unpopular opinions.

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[-] weeeeum 15 points 4 weeks ago

At least to the people around me, frequent substance us.

[-] [email protected] 13 points 4 weeks ago

I would argue that doesn't qualify as trivial.

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[-] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago

No passions or hobbies.

No, traveling isn't a hobby.

[-] [email protected] 18 points 3 weeks ago

I get that but why is traveling not a hobby?

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[-] RizzRustbolt 13 points 3 weeks ago

Insisting on having sex with me.

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 3 weeks ago

Fake nails. I have nothing against people who wear them, but for some reason it just instantly makes me think we are not compatible at all.

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