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[–] andrewta 21 points 6 months ago (2 children)

My home theater. I love movies and if someone said I couldn’t have it hooked up to the main TV I’d walk. I’d rather date someone who either enjoys it or at least it’s neutral on having there.

Also I don’t care if they have a garden. But it will be classified as a hobby, not as yard work or house work when they work in it. Because I’ll never work in one.

[–] TheDoozer 7 points 6 months ago (2 children)

If it's something you want and your partner doesn't care one way or the other about, it shouldn't factor in.

If you want to make the candles you use around the house, maybe they smell nice, maybe they get used, maybe they're cheaper than store-bought, but that's a hobby.

If you do a bunch of baking, especially for people outside the home but even inside it, and your partner isn't all about you cooking, that's a hobby, and you clean up your own mess. That's not chores (unless you're getting paid).

Chores are necessities to keep the communal house going, not anything that takes effort.

[–] SwearingRobin 4 points 6 months ago

I agree with the basic maintenance thing being a chore, but I understand where OP is coming from. So if one person out of the pair decides with previous warning that they want to plant a bunch of stuff then it's their responsability to take care of them.

In my situation for example, I live with my partner in an apartment, and the vases are his to maintain and take care of. We've talked about where we would live next and my parter wants a yard and I don't. So I've forewarned him that if we have a yard in a future house it belongs to him, and any decisions to move to a house with a yard come with that agreement. This is all very different situation to living in a house with a yard already, or not having the choice when moving for some reason.

[–] andrewta 1 points 6 months ago

Exactly. I fully agree

[–] RBWells 4 points 6 months ago

I don't expect help in the garden on an everyday basis, no way. I do what I want with it, don't take requests, so it's mine and my responsibility. But since everyone gets food out of it, they do help occasionally with bigger things; carrying dirt from front driveway to garden, building planters.

Home theater, who cares? Wouldn't everyone put that on the biggest TV? We have only one TV but if there were two of course the bigger one would make the most sense.

Oh, on that - TV in the bedroom is a no for me, too. Doesn't matter for casual, but if I am living somewhere I never want a TV in the bedroom. Music speaker yes, that's fine. TV no way. Thankfully we've had space outside of bedroom for gaming and TV and computer, that is very important to me.