[Outdated, please look at pinned post] Casual Conversation

Yeah but you just gotta do it. Post that comment or post. We gotta build this community for us. I have a tendency to not be as social able on social media vs IRL. Mainly because I'll second guess myself. But we gotta keep this place alive

My lurking comes from mostly not being able to articulate exactly what I want to say sometimes. Like yeah, I know how this random thread makes me feel and I have an idea of what I want to say, but when I try to put it into actual, tangible words that make sense, I just end up sitting there for ten or fifteen minutes trying to word it out before I give up and move on lol. I'm trying to be better at it though, like force myself to post or comment something sometimes. Surely the more times I do, the better I'll be at it right?? ¯\(ツ)/¯

I constantly do the ‘type it out and delete’ move, both on Reddit and slightly getting there here. I’m just an anxious sort who’s thinking ‘surely no one wants to read this’ ¯\(ツ)/¯

Yes keep deleting before I post. Happens quite a lot actually

Yeah, I have significant lurker tendencies. It will take me a while to break out of the habit I think

OP you are inherently not a lurker because you have made this post

I mostly lurk unless I think of something to say that's interesting, additive, it funny. There's no point in replying to a post if you have nothing at all to say - that's just meaningless filler. That's extra true for OC posts.

I never understood lurking. How can you just sit back and observe without ever engaging? Do you have no thoughts? Are you embarrassed? Lazy? We will never know because once the lurkers answer, they are no longer lurking. 😌

yep, first comment after being on Lemmy for 3 weeks

Given its much smaller user base, it's a lot more likely that a human will see your post before it scrolls off of page 1 on Lemmy. There's a little less futility to posting

I am commenting more but I will never find it easy to post. Way too much emotional commitment for me.

Even just a that's looks nice because of the way it is helps. No need to over think it and have to be deep. Any activity helps grow communities.

Me lurk all times all place

Yup. I pretty much only lurked on Reddit, Twitter and all those techbro sites. But trying to engage and become more active since defederating (is that even a word?).

I am moderating a whole damn community. I never reached this level on reddit. I still touch grass I swear. Also its a tiny community that no one really interacts with but me

I used to lurk on reddit but have been much more active here.

Basically if I'm on kbin, I try to comment or post if I have a reason

Yeah, early days of reddit when it was attainable to hit the front page made me much more of an active user. One time I had a meme that had 6000+ up votes in a short time, it was already front page of advice animals, and then the mods removed it. Pricks.

And then another time I had a strong post on DIY, and the mods removed it because I put a comment under one of my pictures that said "and then I cut it to fit." and they didn't think that was descriptive enough. Dicks.

And when I think I really became disillusioned with creating posts was when during the miss universe pageant, one of the women wore a dress where the fabric was made a print of flags of the world. So I posted it to vexillology, and it was getting good interactions. Only problem, someone else had posted a different picture of the dress moments before I did. Removed. After that, mostly just boring comments here and there.

I feel this as well - the responsibility to make the communities more lively. Well, it's not much but it's mine.

This would be my first comment. I mostly lurked on Reddit, probably here too. For me, I more appreciate the aggregated content and don't really want to take the time to engage in discussion as I try to minimize my overall screen time.

I used to just use Reddit anonymously and had an account if I really needed to ask something. This is not the case with Kbin/Lemmy as I am on my account most of the time. But old habits die hard so I am trying to participate some more

Points minus comments, that's your lurkers.

I find it easier to comment on stuff if I just plop something down and send it. It's easier to just express an opinion in the moment. It helps that you can see the responses people put too, keeps it interesting.

I've always been more of a lurker unless I've specifically got something to add. I still think usually there's not a lot to say, even here, but I have found a fair number of conversations and communities to comment in here. I think it's a healthy balance

Have been trying to be more active here. It's been quite fun actually.

yup, I also find myself lurking here a lot too. When I was on Reddit, I'd usually comment on a bunch of niche subreddits and avoid commenting on subs similar to the communities that are currently growing here on the fediverse haha. I'm trying to change that tho, I'd like to contribute as much as I can so this place can keep growing bigger

I'd never delete a post after submitting it, but I do find myself not finishing a comment when I feel it's not worth the effort. I have been trying to get more people to post in my community so I don't have to, though 😅

Just found this community but haven't seen much as of the moment to comment to.

Kinda depends on the time and day for me. I looooove being more active on here, but I usually try to keep myself from doing much more than lurking during the workday, otherwise I won't get anything done.