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[–] [email protected] 117 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (21 children)

Having an interesting conversation with someone you just met. I see people do this shit all the time and they make it look like it comes naturally but every time I'm in that situation it is so difficult. Its like a series of quick time events that im severely underprepared for

[–] Kefass 31 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I learned to combat this with 3 simple questions:

  1. What kind of job do you do? (Or study)
  2. Where do you live?
  3. Do you have any kids, dog,...

Be interrested in their answers and add some simple follow-up questions that show you are listening. Add some content of your own as a follow-up.

Posing that first question can be a bit weird, but the rest is as simple as it sounds.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Be interested in their answers

Yeah, so, that's where I usually drop the ball. What if I'm just... not?

[–] Lemisset 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That's where I rely on "fake it till you make it".

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What if, completely hypothetically of course, I'm pushing 40 and only moderately depressed but still prefer the company of my dogs to most people?

[–] Cryophilia 12 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What kind of dogs do you have?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Sweet, dumb, wonderful shelter mutts.

What are we using to post videos to Lemmy at this point? It still doesn't seem to work from Voyager.

[–] model_tar_gz 2 points 6 months ago

Have you taught them any tricks?

[–] Cryophilia 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Testing a direct upload into the the web browser:

[–] Fuck_u_spez_ 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] Cryophilia 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Brave, android

As a general rule, I don't like apps. I like to have as much web traffic as possible routed through my browser, which I can then use to block cookies, trackers, etc. Generally speaking, apps are much worse on privacy.

[–] Fuck_u_spez_ 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Yeah I'm with you there in most cases but I can't get videos to upload with anything. Five different devices, four different OSes, three different browsers, two different Lemmy instances, and even a VPN to bypass my own firewall and yet I still get nothing but JSON partridge in a fucking pear tree parsing errors when trying to post videos.

Anyway, here are some pictures.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

FWIW, I would choose to hang out with your dogs over most other humans, too.

[–] Cryophilia 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Your dogs are so cute! I love the upside downness. How often do you groom them? They look very clean. I've got a hairy dog and I really should be taking her to the groomers every week, but it's so expensive.

[–] Fuck_u_spez_ 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Thanks! The only thing I do for them regularly in terms of grooming is to cut their nails. They get baths if they're dirty or smelly but they've never had a haircut. Short-haired breeds are awesome.

[–] Cryophilia 1 points 6 months ago

That does sound awesome. I'm so sick of all the fluff everywhere.

Thanks for sharing your pups, hope you have a great rest of your day!

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