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So our neighbors have been a growing problem for a few months now. They seem to be a flop house for six or seven people, most of them look high all day. They go out and Rev a Harley at 3am, they burn plastic been our houses in a fire pit, they have a new dog every two weeks because they keep getting out and getting hit by traffic in the busy street we live on, the current two have bit people. I'm not one to care how someone lives, but these folks make the rest of our slum neighborhood look downright utopian.

I've tried taking to them, they're stupidly hostile. I've put in complaints with the city, noise complaints with the police, they don't do anything about it. Does anyone have advice on dealing with this? I'm tired, at my wits end, and my small town tactics aren't as easy to pull off in a proper city.

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[–] [email protected] -3 points 2 months ago (8 children)

You move.

It's not up to you to control their behavior if it's not criminal.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Its so easy to say, move. The practical reality is often different. Also why the hell should they move if they aren't being obnoxious but the neighbors are. There's a certain level of decency that one should have in any setting. Being obnoxiously stupid to the point of doing all the things in OP's post makes people like that just fucking unacceptable or intolerable to live with. If people want to live like that then they should go live in the fucking wild. The rest of us actually want to live in civilized society.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Also why the hell should they move if they aren’t being obnoxious but the neighbors are.

You assume that OP is being entirely accurate in their descriptions, and that OP isn't doing shit that grates on his neighbors' nerves. That fact that it's bothering OP doesn't mean that OP has the right to dictate their behaviour. Taken to the illogical extreme, religious conservatives make exactly the same arguments against LGBTQ people being able to exist in public; when a transwoman is simply trying to exist, they're going to read it as obnoxious, antisocial behaviour.

The only way to universalize this is to say that unless their behaviour is directly, physically impacting OP--such as the dogs that are vicious--then OP needs to worry about themselves rather than what someone else is doing, as long as the neighbors aren't giving OP shit for whatever OP does.

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