this post was submitted on 10 Dec 2023
1097 points (94.1% liked)

RPGMemes

10343 readers
143 users here now

Humor, jokes, memes about TTRPGs

founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 

Another player who was at the table during the incident sent me this meme after the problem player in question (they had a history) left the group chat.

Felt like sharing it here because I'm sure more people should keep this kind of thing in mind.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] [email protected] 20 points 11 months ago (2 children)

The amount of people in this thread who assume everyone with any type of disability or difference in ability would even want to have their condition corrected is shocking. Why is it impossible to imagine a blind person who doesn't want their vision fixed for no other reason than they believe they're fine as is? Why is that such a difficult thing to grasp? Just because free magical heal exists doesn't mean everyone automatically wants it. You don't need to turn to other explanations about why it might not be trusted or affordable when you can just say "this person is blind and doesn't particularly care to be able to see."

[–] SafCack 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I would guess that the vast amount of people with serious disabilities, paraplegic, blind, deaf, would jump at the opportunity to correct their issues.

That would go doubley so for someone who lives in a d&d style world with far greater dangers and less accomodations than our own.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Yes, but not everyone would. There are deaf people in our world today who don't want to be able to hear.

https://www.insider.com/why-deaf-people-turn-down-cochlear-implants-2016-12

[–] SafCack 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

A big part of this is that the existing technology ISN'T a magic fix. It has side effects, it works differently than traditional hearing does and this requires long periods of adjustment and learning to bear with it. Literally being able to magic your hearing back to what it naturally should be doesn't have those significant downsides.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It doesn't matter, there are still plenty of people who enjoy their deafness in and if itself and don't see it as something to fix.

[–] qarbone 0 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I need to see some accounts of this, the reasoning behind this. Because it is unfathomable.

[–] Elivey 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

To you. That's a you problem.

[–] qarbone 0 points 11 months ago

Yes? That's why I asked for accounts so I could try to understand?

Try engaging with people without looking for "gotchas".

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

This developed because it couldn't be fixed in our world, long enough for these people to develop communities, culture, and literally their own language.

In a world where it could always have been fixed, such communities and cultures are not likely to have ever developed, since the only people who could not get it fixed would be poor, and the poor are in a bad position to gather together in groups based on their shared experience and thus be able to form their own culture.

Furthermore, people not wanting to be cured today exist in a world where there already are significant accomodations for their disabilities. It is not likely these people would be able to do this if our society had not made the collective decision to put in the effort needed to accommodate disabilities.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

You've got a pretty weak imagination.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You think poor people never had their own cultures? Lol, lmao

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Not my point, obviously.

(but like any useful skill, those with access have much better chances)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Yes, but that is because they've either grown up that way or have been deaf for so long that they're fully integrated into the sub culture. In a fantasy setting, deafness would be taken care of before it could influence people culturally

[–] SafCack 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think that disabilities would still exist, but they would be limited to the poor and lower classes who couldn't afford the magic treatments. It really depends on how commonplace magic is and varies by the setting.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

It also would depend on the disability. Deafness might be less covered, but people would be willing to save up or borrow to cure paraplegism because that prevents you from working most jobs

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

They'd force people to hear? That's not fantasy, that's authoritarian.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Parents finding out their baby was deaf would probably pay to get that healed asap. And people born with hearing and later lose it are probably going to want that fixed.

Also, your "argument" of gasp, authoritarianism!!!1! is nothing but a strawman and makes you look ridiculous

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You're moving the goal posts. Originally you said,

In a fantasy setting, deafness would be taken care of before it could influence people culturally

Now you're saying they probably would while still taking a tone of me being wrong. You can't agree with me that deaf people would exist while still acting like I'm wrong.

Also, what you described earlier is akin to eugenics. Forcefully fixing alleged disabilities without consent is absolutely authoritarian.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Forcefully fixing alleged disabilities without consent is absolutely authoritarian.

So a parent is wrong for wanting to fix their child's disabilities? You're actually insane if you believe that, and I hope you never have children

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That is not what you said. You're still moving the goal posts. You said something extreme and are stepping your position back when confronted with the reality of it.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 11 months ago

Keep up with the gaslighting. It gets you nowhere

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Yeah but this is a game for characters who are played by people who exist in a world where that is not the case, so maybe a little sensitivity is called for.

[–] EmpathicVagrant 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It’s a big case of “I don’t like myself as I am and this person with a disability accepts themself so there must me something wrong with me; I’ll take it out on them!” Style projection

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

No, it's argued agaibst because it doesn't make any sense logistically or economically.

And no, handwaving it away because "it's a fantasy setting, realism doesn't matter" is not an argument. There's a thing called suspension of disbelief, which requires a settng to be internally consistent.

[–] EmpathicVagrant 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I’m responding specifically to the difficulty some folks have, with understanding why a disabled person wouldn’t want to be ‘fixed’.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The issue is that in a setting with access to healing magic, you generally wouldn't suffer from a disability long enough for it to be part of your identity

[–] EmpathicVagrant 1 points 11 months ago

Again, my comment wasn’t responding to the magical rpg aspect at all, just the person who doesn’t want their disability to be addressed in any way. Not a character, a real human actual person.