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The framing of this article is all wrong. There aren't just two choices: discipline or wild abandon. There's times and places for both. Five pm at the colorful hippy burrito spot with dinosaur toys and a large play area, let them run free. Out at a special dinner with family bring them with, set your timer for their ability to keep it together and make adjustments as needed. If they don't meet the standard, thats cool. Not their fault and probably not even your fault. Do a vibe check and leave if needed.
Hell, I'm all for your kid doing frog jumps down the grocery aisle, but be a sentinal and see if there's a person in that aisle that would care. You can read the people who are delighted by the child's exuberance and those who want nothing to do with it. I'm not a big fan of screens, but they have their time and place like on the six hour flight.
Any case, there's only so much you can do when parenting. Creating a safe connection for them is so important and then trusting you to see them, receive them, and make the unknown a little bit safer is all a tall task.