this post was submitted on 09 Dec 2024
65 points (89.2% liked)

Ask Lemmy

27210 readers
2105 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either [email protected] or [email protected]. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email [email protected]. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try [email protected] or [email protected]


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Follow-up: For those with children, do you continue the ruse with your own children, or simply tell them it’s you who gives the gifts? Why or why not?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] andrewta 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Same reason why we have the tooth fairy.

Same reason why we create all sorts of other things for kids. To allow kids to be kids and have fun. To help them see the good in the world before we rip the rug out from under them, and show them the world just plain fucking sucks.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think lying to kids is how you hurt them.

Kids can have fun without that lie: "Let's make cookies together and eat them. Let's hang up stockings and put surprises in them for each other. Let's decorate a tree and make a fun video".

[–] andrewta 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You do you. I don’t see it as a lie, but again you raise your kids as you want.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Same to you! What's a little trauma, right? They'll grow out of it.

[–] andrewta 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If that’s enough to cause them trauma, I kind of feel sorry for any kid with that thin of skin.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Being lied to by your protector and guardian is enough to traumatize anyone at that age. You shouldn't be shaming the people who get hurt by it, you should be shaming the people that do it.

[–] andrewta 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I've never met anyone who could honestly say they were traumatized by finding out Santa wasn't real. I'm 50+ years old.

Unhappy? Yeah.

Sad.. Yeah

Traumatized? No

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Many people don't "say" they're traumatized, or even know it. The fact that you've never experienced it doesn't mean it isn't happening.

Have a day. 👋