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Good, maybe politely* asking people out in public spaces other than "the fucking bar" will become acceptable again rather than creepy.
*To clarify, I mean stuff like "I think you look cool, wanna grab some coffee?" not like "Ay lemme taste the inside of your butthole gurl."
Aww man, throwing shade on my best lines, bruh
Lmao it seems 5 people agree with you. Sorry butthole tasters, I didn't mean to say I don't count myself amongst your ranks, as I most assuredly do. I only mean to say that leading with it is probably not the least creepy move one could pull in a grocery store.
So you're saying it's definitely not the worst, right?
Yeah it's only pepper spray bad, and if you play your cards right security won't put you in a leglock.
🥵 I think I need a cold shower now
Maybe women like not having men randomly coming up to them trying to express interest and pursue a date, and not having to deal with the fear of what they may do if rejected?
IDK I'm not a woman.
Women like not being approached by men they don't find attractive, but women also like being appreciated and approached by men they find attractive. And you can never know in which group you fall. And if you just always do what other people desire, you will never get anywhere in life.
Some people legitimately just want to be left alone.
I don't think women really feel any differently about it than men do.
Sure, then women should start approaching men. The apps are not the answer, social media is doodoo.
I'm old enough to remember life before the apps. I could never figure out how to make that work. Approaching girls was stressful and hard and there was a lot of ambiguity because you'd need like some ulterior motive for talking to them and then would have to shift to dating which I never had the confidence to do. Like I'd offer to send her some class notes or something and I'd get her email. But then what?
Just walking up to a random girl and saying:
Would have an extremely low success rate I'm sure. Girls need to feel comfortable first, after all strangers who approach you in a public place tend to be people you'd rather not talk to. Now if you're at a bar and a friend introduces you and you have a conversation first, well that could work and it's kinda how my parents and older cousins met in the pre-app days. But if you're me in college and you're an engineering nerd and have only a handful of equally nerdy friends, those conversations are hard to come by. And that's the role the apps filled for me - the introduction.
I agree, I'll be honest that's why I use these apps. Because when I'd try to just talk to a girl in person and be friendly I get the sense they think I'm either being creepy or want to get in their pants. When I'm just an introvert just trying to start up a conversation lol
You can still do that, but as rsuri says, you cannot be so direct. It's too confrontational and girls don't really appreciate that. You have to invent some plausibly deniable reason to start a conversation. This also gives the girl an out if she is not really interested. Then you just allude to your interest in her, which don't worry she will pick up on immediately. At some point you will either hear, "... and my bf and I" or you hear nothing of that genre. At the end you can ask for a number. That's not exactly the end of the story. Most of the time, the conversation continues through text only for her to drop you before a date is planned. But it's in any case a way better experience than Tinder, unless you're some hunk who can write "6'4" on Tinder and get 100+ matches.
No, it won't, because it has never not been creepy. People should be allowed to go into public without constantly being approached. The part you don't get is that being asked out for coffee once is novel, twice is fun, but after that it gets old really fucking quick. I do not want to have to deal with that every time I just want to do some fucking laundry.
And 90% of the people who do/did this are legitimately creeps.