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I took him in this May. Been taking care of him since then. Things are great now, and I just don’t see the need to go through all of that bureaucracy / involve the authorities if things are already going smoothly as they are. Plus to be completely honest I don’t really trust the system. Because the current situation is an informal adoption from what I’ve read.

And, if you are comfortable with sharing, what are some of the worst things that you've seen?

For me it is Mondegreen: which is a misheard lyric, word or phrase that becomes popular and gives it new meaning.

As in, you see a movie trailer, and based only on that trailer you make up the whole movie in your mind, and it ends up being different than the actual movie. Was your version better or worse?

I'll go first: Men In Black 1 had a somewhat misleading trailer, where they're about to shoot down the flying saucer at the end, and they say to each other "Do you have any idea what you're doing?" "Not a clue." And they shoot. So in my mind it was two guys from the FBI who had to suddenly deal with the existence of aliens and learn to fight them on the fly, learning and making it up as they went along all the while learning to work with each other.

I recently rewatched the video of the woman on the plane screaming that the passenger beside her wasn't human and it got me thinking about something I've seen.

I remember seeing a teenage girl in a small food store I go to address the guy behind the counter as 'human'. "Thanks, human." Stuff like that. I think she was just doing a bit or something but I thought it was strange.

I just had a weird online encounter on Bluesky that made me start wondering what people are willing to accept when it comes to negative online social contact (comments, replies)? What sorts of things are red lines for you personally?

Previously, I would accept quite a bit and would only block/mute/report somebody if it was incredibly offensive, but I would still try to explain myself, argue my point, or defuse a situation or whatever, still honestly trying to engage and make my case. I would rarely block anybody because that seemed almost like cowardice, like I was running from a fight. Since joining Bluesky however, I will not hesitate to block people for the simplest of reasons. Oftentimes if they start parroting obvious right-wing propaganda, if it's a bot, if they're offensive, make it personal, or if they're obviously trolling. As soon as a person starts calling names or makes accusations about the person themselves and strays away from the topic at hand, that's kind of become my personal red line. If you don't know me and you make it personal right away, we're done.

To give some background, my conversation that prompted this was over books vs audiobooks (it's been a subject for weeks on bluesky). I was responding to a librarian's post saying that it's a pointless debate, books are books, doesn't matter if you read a book or listen to an audiobook. I replied, agreeing with her point, saying that the experience of taking in a story is what we're doing, whether it's a regular book with text, picture book, audiobook, movie, or whatever. One format or another may have trade-offs, but you're still absorbing the story, it's still a similar experience you're getting. Not particularly controversial, just adding input, just whatever.

A reply came in from another person, somewhat combative from the start, not particularly long, but there was edge to it I could tell ("So what are you saying? Reading is reading, listening is listening" or something like that). I assumed they wanted more clarification (thus the '?'), so wrote back just kind of explaining how media formats are different, our brain takes in the information differently, but that one format or the other wasn't better, just different. Again, not directed at the person, just discussing the idea.

They replied back with something fairly negative, really sounding like they wanted to start an argument and directing it personally at me as if I was the one being argumentative for replying to their question. Without hesitation I just blocked them. I was like, I'm not going to waste my time engaging with this person (though I apparently will waste my time posting about it on Lemmy). I'm not really afraid of getting feelings hurt or anything, call me whatever you want, but if it's an obvious negative experience they're trying to goad me into, I'm not going to engage, I'm just going to walk away.

It's an interesting thing that's happening on Bluesky, because that's the overall behavior that seems to be encouraged on there that I haven't really seen elsewhere, don't engage with obviously negative people, it's not worth it. Is that what we should be striving for, starving the trolls and trying to encourage polite, civil discourse?

I started seeing more and more non-free content (paywalled or non freely licensed articles and videos) and less Creative Commons or freely licensed content.

All of this is making me worried about the free content future.

Why aren't people worried about that and why they are not doing something about it?

I don't know of any non-profit currently that advocate for free-er world, which is essential for the libre culture.

My wife and I are aiming to break all of our belongings down as minimally as we can in order to be able to live on the road for a while (for a multitude of reasons.)

Within our budget and needs, we’ve decided on a NuCamp 320 teardrop trailer, which clocks in at just under 3,000 lbs unloaded. Her, myself and two pups all weigh 300 lbs together. Optimally, we’d like to start with just the vehicle first, and trailer later on as an upgrade.

We were initially looking at a toyota 4runner to pair with this given the advertised 1550 lbs of potential cargo capacity and tongue weight of the hitch. However in practicality, we saw no more than a max capacity of 880 lbs period in the door jams at the dealerships. Even in the off-road models, which just seemed… asinine? Using some calculators, that would seemingly give us very little-to-no wiggle room for any proper amount of livable necessities before we cross that threshold and run into myriad issues.

Now we’re wondering how people actually do it? Are we overthinking it? We did love the vehicle, but these numbers are waaay too close for comfort, seeing as most advice we find online generally recommends not crossing ~80% of the big number. We’ve begun looking at land cruisers as an alternative, but the way the market is right now, and the difference in cost for both new and used, it’s looking more and more infeasible. Don’t even get me started on the GX550.

Have you been through a similar situation? Any advice would be appreciated! 🤍

By new I mean original songs, not covers of older standards.

Is it bots? Are those humans whos mission is to cause chaos? Is the weird behaviour caused by the creation of the concept of lemmy?

Somebody please explain to me wtf is going on.

They answer destructive comments, assuming shit, demanding shit. Are they trolls?

Are they being paid for causing chaos? It’s insane

Obviously water but are there other molecules like sulfur etc?

Edit: also do hot springs stink cuzza sulfur?

Well, I have a parent that is right on the edge of dislike that I keep them in my life for the sake of family harmony. But I consider them to be a bad person that makes me extremely uncomfortable to be around.

If you had something similar, and they died, how did it make you feel?

I'm purely curious because right now I feel like I would happy that they are out of my life, but sad for my family, but overall happier. And I want to understand if I'm being naive about the hardship of losing a parent, even a disliked one.

Maybe it's the flu I'm having but I had a funny "YouTube comment" on a Harry potter video, on my head and when I came up with it I giggle for a good 30 seconds, my torax started hurting (again due the flu)... Ouch

I upload an image to the simple web format Perchance image to image generator and nothing happens, just a grayed out button saying generating. Anyone know if I am doing something wrong or need to use a browser other than Chrome? (I'm on mobile but it doesn't work on my laptop, either).

Have you ever met a stranger that gave you advice that changed your life?

Have you lost a partner at a young age? Got a rare disease?

Decided to buy bitcoin on a whim in 2009?

Changed careers several times?

Sorry if this is a weird question. I'm bored and randomly thought about reincarnation and started wondering, thought this would be a fun question. 😉

Rules:

• All your current memory is instantly transferred when you fall asleep one night (you don't get any prior knowledge of this so you won't be able to make any preparations), then when you wake up, you are in the body of a random North Korean kid living in Pyongyang somewhere between age 10 and 14 and matching your gender assigned to your original body at birth (I'm sorry, I know this would be a struggle for those that don't identify with their gender assigned at birth, but it's part of the challenges of this hypothetical)

• All psychological health conditions are also transferred (unfortunately)

• Your new host body would not have any physical disabilities and is mostly healthy (sort of)

• You don't have any of your host body's original memories, they're gone. (Edit: You retain any language that your host body's original consciousness have learned, but no memories) Their consciousness was overwritten by your consciousness's arrival and they, unfortunately, died. That consciousness wouldn't know or feel anything, it just vanishes, poof.

• The person who was originally you in your old body, would immediately die during sleep, at the moment of the consciousness transfer occuring. Doctors could not find a cause of death, and its marked as "Unknown Cause of Death". No foul play would be found, no one would ever get falsely suspected by authorities of murdering you.

So how do you survive?

How do you plan your escape, or are you even gonna try?

👀

For me, it's a 30fps video about someone doing a Super Mario flash game walkthrough of their own level. It was pretty meticulous, pushed the physics of the game. Lots of F.L.U.D.D. (a funky water spray bottle for plumber self-propelling) and dive tricks.

While it's very unlikely that someone has a definitive answer, this question popped into my head after the assassination of the UHC CEO and it's been bothering me that I can't shake off this feeling that more is likely to happen (maybe not in higher frequency but potential).

Usually I could provide counter-arguments to myself in a realism/(should I buy apples or oranges comparison) kind-of sense but this one I feel more unsure about.

I wish I had more diverse exp in systems analysis as these kinds of questions that linger in my head really irritates my OCD brain as I just want to know what's the most likely answer.

The current news has me thinking that, while the death of any human is not something I actively relish, most people feel a certain satisfaction, relief or, at least, less sad when someone like Osama Bin Laden dies, because they were responsible for the deaths of thousands of innocent people.

Which got me wondering, have studies been done estimating how many legitimate insurance cases are rejected, delayed or otherwise mishandled, and how many of those result in deaths? I guess other industries are also responsible for some pretty measurable risk factors (e.g. air pollution). It would interesting to see some rough numbers of how many deaths the CEOs who choose to continue running these companies in harmful ways account for. Obviously, they are only indirectly responsible, but the same could be said about Bin Laden, he didn't fly the planes himself, he delegated.

With the recent talks of UAPs because of the current events over the UK and New Jersey, I'd love to hear your experiences.