This happens on Lemmy because we don't have a "flair" method. On reddit you can set up a group for "gun owers" as an example. To post or comment to that group on reddit you have to message the mods and request flair. Your request has to have links to posts or comments that you have made proving that you are a gun owner.
But on lemmy you can set up a "gun owers" group and constantly have people who hate guns posting and commenting. Your only alternative is to remove their posts or comments or ban them.
The advantages of Lemmy are 1) being able to see a modlog and know why your comment or post was removed. 2) Lemmy mods rarely permanently ban people which I believe is a vast improvement over reddit.
There are times when you just never get the chance to ask your wife/girlfriend about something. So occassionally while my wife/girlfriend has her feet up on my shoulders we will discuss something for a few minutes. You continue to thrusting at a slow pace so as not to dry out