I prefer the terms hetero and cishets
How about we don't use any sexuality as an insult
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Neither are good
Both can be funny in the right context. Furthermore, using "straight" as an insult doesn't uphold any kind of systemic oppression, so I have a hard time reading it as anything other than a joke.
The most problematic thing about it is that it is reminiscent of homophobia, but y'all gotta learn to make the difference. Giving bigoted straight people a taste of their own medicine in a context where it cannot possibly hurt them (unlike actual homophobia) is funny.
Insults are a conversational, social, and emotional weapon. Weapons have valid uses, for example in self defence.
The use of many weapons has effects beyond the immediate violence they do. For example if you buy a gun from a cartel, you help them scale their business and sell more guns, leading to more gun violence. Likewise if you use slurs against marginalised communities, you reinforce the stigma and make the slur more potent, increasing the violence done later. You're emboldening an infrastructure of violence in both cases.
If you insult someone by calling them gay, you hurt them and you also hurt all gay people. But if you insult someone by calling them straight, you hurt them without hurting all straight people. Because you are not emboldening an extant infrastructure of violence.
Listen to your mental gymnastics. Just don't insult anyone with their sexuality. Period. You could take it even farther and just say "don't insult anyone" Seems pretty safe to me.
You could take it even farther and just say "don't insult anyone" Seems pretty safe to me.
That suggestion seems to be beyond your capabilities, since you began your comment with a sarcastic quip intended to insult my reasoning capabilities.
The longest "no u" I've heard in a while, congrats.
If you don't want to be called a hypocrite, maybe you could stop being a hypocrite.
Buddy, I didn't insult u. I just said listen to what ur saying and maybe make better choices. Now u literally are insulting me. I cannot with u. Goodbye lol.
When you fall to their level, you've already lost.
Remember how people called homosexual people, "gay", as an insult and instead of making it a bad word, like the n word, homosexual men were like, "You know what? Fuck you. I am gay. And I'm not just going to let you call me gay. I'm going to call myself gay."? And this word that could have grown to be as powerful of an insult as the n word became empowering to the people it was intended to shun. I always thought that was a baller move.
I have always thought that people that want to insult me are going to do it, no matter what, and people that want to be respectful to me, are going to do it no matter what.
I'm bi, but most people don't know. I've been called a "breeder" once as an insult, and it was a term being thrown around a lot years ago, I haven't heard it in years which is good cause I don't think those people realized the connotations of that word, especially used towards a person of color
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who the heck is insulted by that. granted I think gay guys have only ever said it to me in a jest type of way.
Right? The comments in this thread are fkn weird
I prefer cishet, but I pronounce it sis-shaay.
I hate you not for using the term but strictly because of that pronunciation.
Sishay away.
I've recently graduated to enby and ambiguously queer.
They happened.
I have never heard that as an insult in my entire life. Looks like it is not even popular to begin with.
Maybe using any sexuality as a pejorative is bad?
I call myself cishet sometimes, meant as an insult.