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Children's [4-5yrs] books that normalize poly parents (feddit.de)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/polyamory

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I'm in the market for books that normalize poly parenting. I have the Red Stroller for normalizing different family types (eg. single parent, gay, interracial).

My child's other parent (separated) is very conservative and my family is too. I'm not trying to "push" poly, but prepare my kid mentally/emotionally if people say shit about me. I still have several years before I would need to come out.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

When I look at the downvotes, its seems like lots of folks have an issue with your post. I think you post is pretty reasonable and I hope you you get some constructive comments.

Plus I found some discussions on Reddit about this topic on Reddit

children’s books about polyamory? - Archived Version

Poly friendly childrens books? - Archived Version

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Poly family I know reports in

There's one called "and that's their family" that we have that has poly representation

[+] breadsmasher -19 points 1 year ago (3 children)

why do your kids need to know about your sex life?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

isn't the reason to explain why the kid might have multiple parents in comparison to other children? (sort of like how some children might have only 2 dads, 2 moms, or 2 nonbinary parents) (ah derp they already mentioned this in their post lol)

based on the post it doesn't seem like their intention is to talk about their sex life as you say, that just sounds off and real bizarre

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Yeah. This is literally just to simplify the questions of why do I have multiple boy/girlfriends. It's not like I can hide that from my kid.

The alternative is to let them think I'm cheating, which is what other people in my kid's life will tell him.

It's no different than trying to answer the two dads question.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I know, right?! It's like those people that wear these weird bands to show to the world that they've been 'taken' or whatever, like, I get it, but please - stop shoving your 'lifestyle' down my throat, ok?! Call me old fashioned, but I think they should keep their kinks to themselves and shouldn't be allowed to wear their weird "wedding rings" in public where children can see them!

OP isn't asking how to introduce their kids to the concept of BDSM or asking to explain how they like being tied up, for fucks sake, they're asking if there are child friendly books to help explain that you can love multiple people. Most monogamous folks introduce their partner to their kids after 6-12 months, so why wouldn't poly folks be able to do the same?

OP - Unfortunately, I think books around LGBTQIA+ and then having a conversation might be the best you're going to get from the quick research I just did. At the very least, your options are slim if you do manage to find anything.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Poly is about more than sex.

Ethical non monogamy is uncommon so there are very few cultural signposts about it. It's reasonable to want to see yourself or your situation reflected in media. Some families have multiple adults in loving relationships simultaneously.