Trans Memes

Let's set aside the transphobia call out for a moment, cause that's a slap in my face and I do t think it's what you're intending.

My intention by saying brave is this.

If you are what your body is expressed as, then life is fairly smooth sailing.

But if you aren't, first you have to identify that which can be a difficult process. After identification of your gender, next you have to take a step and tell someone. That actually of speaking is bravery to me because admitting something like that to a parent or a loved one is difficult.

"Mom dad. I'm a boy or girl or gay or bi or Jew or muslim or atheist."

No matter what the I am is and no matter how accepting your parent is, if it's different from their experiences you have to contend with fear of disappointing them, of them rejecting it and not accepting you as you. It doesn't matter if it's trans gay bi or religious. It's different and they are supposed to be your family.

Telling some of the closest people 'im different from you' takes chutzpah.

You're welcome to call me transphobic all you want but I'll applaude someone who took those steps and I'll tell you to fuck off for insulting me trying to support you.

As for calling me a coward for not fighting transphobia, you're welcome to shut the fuck up. I'm a Jew. Born and proud. If I don't stand up for you every way I can think of then I could not possibly ask you to stand for me when the Nazis come hunting me down.

Maybe you didn't intend it that way, but for conversation sake, try asking first.

When I think of something I'll let you know. For now I just accept that I'll hear it and I'll say nontrans.

Maybe Greek instead of Latin? I think that would be homogender instead of cisgender and heterogender instead of transgender.

I was wondering if the spectrum was "various groups the person is 'out' to"

Thank you for clarifying that!

I don't like the comic for the lack of context. People who do difficult things need support.

For instance, I'm a minority gender in my career and every conference has people who randomly tell me how brave I am for bring born with a specific set of chromosomes - that's annoying.

However, when I bitch to my peers about the biases and difficulties I encounter - I want my friends to validate my struggle.

Yes and no. I have died purple hair, an estrogen tattoo on my arm, a trans flag necklace, and shoes with one set of pride laces and one set of trans flag laces.

They're all really helpful after someone is already talking to me for some reason, but they're not much good for those moments where you pass someone in the wild.

I care little what cis society thinks of me and my appearance when they see me. I care a great deal about being visible to the gender diverse community though.

Yet when I speak to cis people and tell them I'm trans, they assume that I'm trying to keep my identity on the down low, and that I'm trying to look like them. And the gender diverse community often doesn't even see me out in the wild, so the baby trans folk, the closeted folk, the folk who benefit from seeing other trans folk out there living their lives on their own terms, they see one less trans person.

And that adds up over time. I feel it like a slap to the face every time another trans person looks right past me without that moment of shared recognition.