Image description: 4 panel comic titled If Trans People Said the Things Cis People Tell Them.
Panel one has an androgynous individual talking to a woman. The androgynous individual, "To me, you are 100% a girl, you know?" The woman has a look of confusion and disgust and responds with, "Wow, thanks."
Panel two has the same androgynous individual speaking with a man. The androgynous individual is saying, "It's so incredibly you look just like an actual boy!" The man is rubbing the back of his head in nervous confusion and says, "Yeah, I... am one?"
Panel three has the androgynous individual speaking with someone of ambiguous gender. The androgynous individual says, "I would never have guessed you were cis! Congratulations!" The other person is looking at them with an expression of confusion and concern.
Panel four has the androgynous individual speaking to a man. The androgynous individual says, "I think you are so brave for being who you are." The man is frowning at them.
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Following that assumption path, ugh. That's some bullshit.
I definitely don't think being trans or non trans is a choice. It's a part of who that person is and I want to support that.
Didn't know coming out was a spectrum but it kinda makes sense. That being said, I still think it's brave to step on any part of that spectrum as a trans person because that can cause so much upheaval in their life. Making that statement in any capacity is an act of bravery.
(sorry I really don't like the word cisgender, I can't explain it beyond it's an emotional reaction akin to nails on a chalkboard)
I hate hearing it's brave though. It shouldn't be. It really shouldn't be and every time I hear it I'm merely reminded that the person saying it exists in a world where they can see that transphobia but they do nothing about it. It's almost like saying "wow you're gay/trans? I'm too much of a coward to do anything that would ever make the world better for people like you." It's platitude and more telling on yourself than anything.
Let's set aside the transphobia call out for a moment, cause that's a slap in my face and I do t think it's what you're intending.
My intention by saying brave is this.
If you are what your body is expressed as, then life is fairly smooth sailing.
But if you aren't, first you have to identify that which can be a difficult process. After identification of your gender, next you have to take a step and tell someone. That actually of speaking is bravery to me because admitting something like that to a parent or a loved one is difficult.
"Mom dad. I'm a boy or girl or gay or bi or Jew or muslim or atheist."
No matter what the I am is and no matter how accepting your parent is, if it's different from their experiences you have to contend with fear of disappointing them, of them rejecting it and not accepting you as you. It doesn't matter if it's trans gay bi or religious. It's different and they are supposed to be your family.
Telling some of the closest people 'im different from you' takes chutzpah.
You're welcome to call me transphobic all you want but I'll applaude someone who took those steps and I'll tell you to fuck off for insulting me trying to support you.
As for calling me a coward for not fighting transphobia, you're welcome to shut the fuck up. I'm a Jew. Born and proud. If I don't stand up for you every way I can think of then I could not possibly ask you to stand for me when the Nazis come hunting me down.
Maybe you didn't intend it that way, but for conversation sake, try asking first.
What you say is fair and makes a lot of sense.
I'll tell you this though - and this is coming from someone who just learned you're a Jew - you're incredibly brave for being a Jew.
Thanks, I was born this way.
I guess this one doesn't really work so well since I very much aspire to be that Jew with a lit menorah in a window with a Nazi flag clearly in the distance. I am who I am and I take pride in it target on my back or not.
"sorry I really don't like the word cisgender, I can't explain it beyond it's an emotional reaction akin to nails on a chalkboard)"
What would you rather be used?
When I think of something I'll let you know. For now I just accept that I'll hear it and I'll say nontrans.
Totally valid
Maybe Greek instead of Latin? I think that would be homogender instead of cisgender and heterogender instead of transgender.
Won't lie, I'm digging homogender. No reason we can't use homogender as a synonym for cisgender.
It'll piss off the transphobic assholes by making the really stupid ones think we're calling them gay.
That was the exact reason I posted it (I cannot take credit for the idea, that I got from TikTok ). I personally am a cisgender straight white male, that said, I have no issue being called homogender.
I like that cis- and trans- mean on this side and on the other side. It captures a sense of motion I like. Homo- and hetero- meaning same or different doesn't do the same thing for me.
If you wanted to go Greek I would start with looking at dia- for across and maybe peri- for near.
I work with some high school kids, one of the students is out and open with her friends but her conservative catholic family has no idea and is anti gay. So she hides it from them.
I was wondering if the spectrum was "various groups the person is 'out' to"
Thank you for clarifying that!