Use your friends and family. Tell them you're doing so and instruct them to lie for you.
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While this initially sounds a bit 'wrong' I realised that I've been asked to be a fake reference before. So it's actually a part of the norm.
I've never been asked to do that before but I know it's a thing. I was just hoping to do things "the right way". But if I need to lie then I guess I will.
I've done it for friends and offered it countless times
This is pretty much the only actual option. I'm sure there's a more "ethical" option but I'll be fucked if I can think of one.
The problem with this is if you have parents who solemnly believe honesty is best policy. My parents might lie about my issues by way of omission, to try to paint me in a good light but they sure as hell won't lie that they are my parents.
I used people who have only seen me at my best, but aren't relatives.
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volunteer leaders from places I love to volunteer. If I love volunteering there I don't usually see it as a job, so I'll always be at my enthusiastic passionate best.
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take a week's work experience somewhere and use them as a reference (or just apply at the place you volunteered if you liked it, a week is enough to give a good impression better than any reference) - a week is usually long enough to give you a reference, but short enough that it's still a novel experience so you don't have time to show your worst or how quickly you burn out.
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my previous boss was great for use as a reference as he's honest, but he has a way of drastically downplaying everyone's bad qualities to other people (if there were no good qualities, he would've fired you anyway), while at the same time managing to make you feel bad for having those same qualities.
I know it’s a bit late for that, but adding people proactively just in case I need them to vouch for me later is the #1 reason I even have a LinkedIn account.
Yes, this is good advice. It might not help now, but just as you go along in your career keep note of good references, be sure to link with them on LinkedIn while working with them, and if possible get them to write you a recommendation on LinkedIn as well.
Don't know you, but you're a tireless worker who goes as above and beyond. You've always been there when needed whether it was helping me understand that new online ordering stuff with COVID or just mowing my lawn when you were younger. I would definitely love to have someone like you as an employee. Send them my way
So this is advice I've offered many co-workers and friends over the years. This advice actually came directly from my first boss.
Always try and make time to have a lunch with a former co-worker. Just one, co-worker, it's one hour, once a month. Just have a lunch with someone, anyone from a former job. This helps in a couple of ways, you keep your network open and you keep it expanding. These people aren't your friends, but they could turn into friendship if you wish them to be.
Prior to the pandemic, I had a list of my months, and which co-workers I would reach out to from former jobs. This has been huge for me as it has helped me land new job opportunities and it has turned some former workers into great friendships. But it's just 12 hours a year, and 12 lunch's a year. But it's just enough that I'll always have someone I can use as a reference.
I've now had many different jobs over the years, but I still schedule lunches with former co-workers. But I make sure to reach back out to people to set these up, it's helped me also become more social than I normally am.
So once you've got this new job in the bag, do not lose touch with the old co-workers make an effort to have lunch with someone, anyone, but at least someone you wouldn't pull your hair out after spending an hour with them.
It's just 12 hours once a year.
edit: don't get me wrong this isn't an easy task my first boss had to force me to go to lunches I didn't want to go to.
I am definitely friends with and will keep in contact with a few of my coworkers. One of them is the forever dungeon master (the DnD kind not the kinky kind) in my friend group. The problem in my case is that I only have 3 jobs in my work history and the 1st and 3rd job are the same company. I started at my current company straight out of highschool and worked my way up. Then I went elsewhere for a few years before one of my old coworker friends basically begged me to come back and work on a new project so now my excoworkers are now my current coworkers again. At my second job I was a one man department and I was lucky if I even saw anyone else all day. I probably should have tried to network more there though. As I said in the origional post I really don't want to use any current coworkers so that eliminates 2 thirds of my work history and I didn't network for the other third. I'll definitely be keeping in touch with people from my new job, considering I'll be apprenticing under someone it should be easy to make at least one contact.
Once a month? That's more than I see my friends
This is excellent advice. People need to note it down.
OP, you say no one in college would remember you. What about a professor or TA? I kept grades for years on my students just for this reason. Even if I didn't remember specifics about someone, I could comment on their performance.
As a former college lecturer I definitely remember my students for years, so thats still an option. I'd do whatever lecturer you knew best and then the admin department who can confirm that you were there.
I honestly didn't really know any of my professors. I'm one of those lucky people that doesn't need to study to do well so I never spoke to any of my professors outside of class. If I had finished that degree maybe that would have changed in the higher level classes but as it is I only went for a couple years before I realized I would hate actually working in that field. I just wound up teaching myself a trade instead.
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They won't background check your references. I invented "Steve" as my manager and left his number. Turns out "Steve" was actually my boyfriend.
Disclaimer: this is based on the UK, other jurisdictions may vary.
The purpose of references is to confirm that you are who you say you are. You don't need someone to vouch for your brilliance and dedication, only your existence. Any former school or employer should be willing to confirm that yes, you did work/study there when you say you worked/studied there. Get in touch with them and ask who reference requests should be directed to.
No one should expect you to provide a reference from a current employer until after you've been offered the job. So if you need to use your current employer, just ask them to hold off until the pre-employment phase.
Dude, I got you. Pm me what you're applying f or and I will write you a glowing review/recce.
Sometimes it depends on how far the employers head is not too far up their bums. What you should try to do is to build up a history with contact details - but that is also of limited value as folks move on and change numbers.
What they are looking for is some kind of 'trusted authority' - so your current boss is the main one. However, they should look more at your assessment of your skills and relevant abilities and qualificastions.
Then they should call you in for a chat and interview you. Then if they don't think you suck, they can give you a trial period during which you must prove yourself.
Don't over-think it.
What kind of employer asks for references these days? Such an inadequate and dated concept.
Tell us that you haven't looked for work recently without blah blah...
Here In Australia many still do.
We have a very social culture, so many people still believe the best way to guage someone's personality and work ethic is to talk to those who are familiar but not too close.
Of course the bigger the company the less likely they are to actually call those references - many just like seeing them on the page, sort of a "does he have non-famillial references? Yes, that's a checkbox ticked ☑"
I work for a fairly big university and we still ask (or at least we did pre-COVID, when I handled some recruitment stuff). And it has to be, like... two references from two different positions (or classes or whatever)? Again, unless something changed.
References are hard as shit to get ahold of, too. I could pay off all my debts if I had a nickel for every time I had to get recruitment to nab us more refs.
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Are there any charitable volunteer opportunities near you?
My city isn't teribly big so there isn't much. I also work nights currently so the bigger issue is that most opporitunities don't line up with my sleep schedule.
You might consider searching "[city/county name] rescue mission" to find opportunities. Shelters need people in the evenings to help with check-ins and with serving meals. Maybe they could even use someone overnight.
There are probably churches in your area that could use help as well. You do not have to be a member (or religious at all) to volunteer with them.
Alcoholics Anonymous (and similar programs) usually meet in the evening and could use help with running meetings.
Seriously, volunteer opportunities are the best way to build references. Someone always needs help somewhere. And what better reference could you get from someone than "Yeah, I know them, we volunteer together"?
I would reach out to the staffing department at the place you are applying for and explain your situation. They will probably give you the best advice on how they would want somebody to handle your situation.
I might just do that. Although your username does make me question if I should take that advice.
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You can use professors since you went to college. If you ever worked for family or volunteered, those could work as well.
As other mentioned, honestly, you can even do friends if they can vouch as project partners or other maybe unpaid work.
Then you can just go the made up route, but just make sure to have a believable story that you can remember, lol. They don't really need to know that they are your friends, TBH...
Have a trusted friend be your old boss at Pier 1 Imports
My man
Your new employer will be looking for references who can provide information and context around how you are to work with, how you have dealt with complexity and how you show initiative.
They will ideally want to understand how you work and how you behave.
You NEED someone you have worked with directly or who has managed you.
Highly suggest you find someone at your current workplace ideally someone at a more senior level to you. Or someone at same level that can vouch that you can rely on.
What is the worst case at your current place if they know you are interviewing?
Piggybacking off this, I wouldn't just ask a direct manager whether he would vouch for you, I'd also ask for feedback on areas needing improvement too. You don't have to go into your next job with that same blind spot. Imagine being in a job interview and when they ask you about your "weak areas" you can respond, "I talked with my previous supervisor about this exact issue!" For the last half decade I've made a habit of asking for corrective feedback and taking performance reviews seriously. It's like the opposite of burning a bridge! My current and previous boss are happy to vouch for me!
The problem with my current place is that we're overstaffed. I haven't had any work to do in months and it's not showing any signs of getting better. It's only a matter of time until there are layoffs. Considering I'm the highest paid person in my department, I'm a likely candidate. If they know I'm looking for another job then they have no reason to not just can me on the spot. I can't afford to not have income hence why I'm trying to find a new job before I get layed off. I can't risk losing my job without having another one lined up. Yes if I got laid off I could get unemployment but that takes time and durring that time I would have no money. Unemployment also isn't exactly enough to live off of.
That's weird, it probably depends on the field you're in, but I've never been asked for references and I had many interviews...
What field are you in that they’ve never asked for references? I’ve had to provide references for a range of jobs, from warehouse assembly line work to medical research
I'm in software and I've never been asked
Electrical industry (electrician/maintenance/inspection/etc) here and I've never been asked. Probably depends on your area and how desperately they're hiring.
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I work in broadcast TV and have never been asked for references, nor have I asked for references for anybody I've hired. I was also told we're basically only allowed to confirm someone worked for us if we get called for a reference. We're not supposed to comment on their performance.
Not op but I'm in manufacturing (aerospace) and didn't provide references to my last two employers. I could have provided them if asked but I was never asked, and I didn't offer. I was background checked by a third party though, which included some basic resume verification.
Why don't you keep in touch with old coworkers that you get along with?
Look them up on LinkedIn and talk to them occasionally, not just when you need something. Just start doing that today.
Don't try to use a lie because then you'll have to cover it up another lie, and sooner or later you're going to lose track.
Keeping in touch is generally good advice I know but my current situation is a little tricky. I replied on a different comment about this too so sorry for the text wall.
My big issue is that my entire employment history consists of 3 different periods of employment 2 of which are at my current employer. I started working at my current employer straight out of highschool and worked my way up over a good few years. Then I left for a different job for a couple years before a friend at current employer basically begged me to come back and work on a new project. I keep in touch with quite a few of my current coworkers and have since my first stint at this employer. But I don't want to use them as references because layoffs are comming so if my current employer gets wind that I'm looking for a new job then odds are good they would just fire me immediately. Why would they keep paying me to sit at work with no work to do when they know I'm leaving anyways?
At my only other job I was basically a one man department working in a place where I interacted with very few people outside of a ticketing system. The very few people I regularly worked with there either never stuck around for more than a couple of months or I secretly despised them. My bosses were fine and I really should have kept in touch with them but I honestly wanted nothing to do with that place after I left.
As far as LinkedIn goes I've personally never had any employers that used it and only one coworker that used it. Maybe it's more of a thing in bigger cities or different fields but it isn't really a thing in my field in my area. I'm pretty invested in a trade now and it definetly doesn't seem popular among trades workers.
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