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I just bought the new Spiderman Multiverse movie to watch with the family. The wife is sleeping through it and the kiddo loves it. But I'm to ADHD to sit through it. Ugh frustrating.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Constant scrolling social media on your phone gifting you with small doses of dopamine causes this. I used to read a book every two weeks few years ago and I have reached a point recently where books were boring, movies were too long so I watched series only. Realization is the first step. Now you have to make steps to change this. I have swapped bedtime phone scrollig to reading and books again and lowered my daytime phone usage. I have also watch some educational youtibe videos instead of scrolling some social media. It has helped a lot and now I'm back into reading and much more patient.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My wife spends an incredible time scrolling through TikTok and instagram reels but she is perfectly capable on sitting through 10 hours a day to watch a dorama, still I have a hard time finishing a movie when I barely use social media

Edit: I’m diagnosed with ADHD and she’s not

[–] TheBananaKing 10 points 1 year ago

Watch? We watch movies now?

Start movie. Title sequence rolls, immediately tab out because loading screen. Fine, stuff is happening. Ugh, setup/framing scenes. Need coffee. Pause. Kettle on. May as well wait until I've made the coffee so I don't have to break the flow again. I'll just quickly mine some dopamine on the net while i'm waiting. Oh fuck the kettle's boiling. Oh fuck? Oh, right. Procrastinating a thing makes it stressful, it's turned into an obligation and therefore a threat. Okay, fine, I'll get to it, I'll just oh it's 2am.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yea I love movies but yea sometimes it can be tough.

Tbh getting high helps lol

[–] phillycodehound 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But then you're on a whole other level. But true sometimes it slows the brain down a little. CBD is great too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I don't get too high, just a little but enough for me to just wanna sit and relax

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm the only one in my family who can actually do that.

Everyone else keeps checking their phone, talking over each other, getting up every ten minutes to do something, which makes watching a movie with my family the most frustrating thing on earth.

It's the one thing I can focus on, and they make it unnecessarily hard for me.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Damn, I'm the same way but that movie kept me engaged the whole time. the blends of animation style was mesmorizing.

[–] phillycodehound 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Ironically I guess I wasn't in the mood. We own it I'll try and watch it again sometime.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That could definitely be it. Honestly I'd wait for part 2 to release before rewatching it.

[–] blackrox1411 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

12 hour YouTube video, love it, 2 hour film, cannot

[–] phillycodehound 1 points 1 year ago

LOL right!?!!?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I can barely handle a 8 minute online video

[–] phillycodehound 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But I can listen to a podcast. But I'm usually doing something else at the time.

[–] jedibob5 3 points 1 year ago

The only time I can listen to podcasts is on road trips. Anywhere else and I get distracted with something else and then I absorb none of it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

1.5x default speed

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

As long as I've got no distractions around me at all (like a cinema) or as long as I have access to the distractions so I can multi-task (like on a PC at home). But if I'm at home, trying to watch a movie, without doing anything else, it's next to impossible. If it's a rewatch, it's completely impossible

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

My god. This is me. I mostly only sit down to watch tv/movies in the evenings… and that’s probably when my adhd meds wear off… but I press pause and get up and down so often. I even annoy myself. Forget watching with my kids. They groan and give me the side eye whenever I say I need to go grab something etc..

I’ve also noticed, the more anxiety producing the show/movie is… the more I have to press pause and leave the room. Suspenseful? Horror? Car chase? Heist? Yup… mom’s gotta get up 20 times… 😑

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I keep getting up to go work on a (perpetually unfinished) hobby project half way through most movies. For some reason most movies are the least entertaining entertainment possible. (Ofc better than staring at a wall)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's too much work to find a movie on Amazon Prime. So I don't watch them very often.

TV? Haha.. what is TV?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I have to watch the whole movie uninterrupted. Pausing disturbs me, but I have to be on my phone at the same time.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I can see some people having a hard time sitting through the Spider-verse movies since they're so flashy. But yeah sometimes when I'm watching a movie I have a hard time following along with everything. I sometimes have to tell myself that it's ok to glaze over and miss some details just so I don't stress myself out.

[–] Ataraxia 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It was a perfect movie for me to watch as it didn't have any slow parts and kept things going so my attention span was engaged. I can't stand movies where they spend too much time talking and being boring.

[–] phillycodehound 1 points 1 year ago

Even high action. I can't

[–] davetapley 1 points 1 year ago

I really struggle, but with the recent and dramatic exception of the 2021 movie "Cow". I'd love to know if others find it as peaceful as I did.

It is a movie shot from the perspective of a cow.

There are no "words". Just following a cow. It's beautiful.