Real men forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.
“Ok, one mint tea please”
No not like that
this post was submitted on 19 Aug 2023
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For real. I'm 6'2 and work out 4 times a week. Even then some guys think you're not men enough if you don't tick all their silly boxes.ust be a miserable life.
Edit: not that I think those measurements are manly either. The only qualification for being manly is identifying as one.
Stuff like what you’ve posted about others expectations and their arbitrary boxes really exemplifies how people use gender roles to seek some sort of self validation. It’s funny how if you ask someone who cares deeply about their male identity what being a “man” is, it always conveniently aligns exactly with themselves, no need for self adjustment
Real ~~men~~ people forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.
“Ok, one mint tea please”
No not like that
FTFY
Sure, sorry if the tone wasn’t clear on my original post, it was made mocking people who think like that, people like the ones laughing at the tea in the first place. I personally have no interest in prescriptive gender or personhood definitions
I think you broke it rather than fixed it
Just do what xi Jinping did at the Two Sessions, and order a second cup.
According to Highly Credible Western Analysts™, that's a power move.
That is the look of a man who doesn't give a god damn fuck what any westerner thinks of him and is also about to enjoy a second cup of tea, respect
He's the real top Xi, that's for sure
Me sitting at home with five mugs of tea, constantly making them one after another, am I also pulling a power move?
Depends if you have on a cool name tag like that
Westerners: "Xi is making a bold power move by ordering a second cup of tea."
Xi: "This is good tea. I should get another cup."
one big glass of soy milk, please 
This has always been the weirdest part of this kind of toxic masculinity. Being "tough enough" to not just go along with the crowd makes you a wimpy soyboy? Real men blindly do what everyone else is doing I guess.
If you ever just want to skip a potential interaction, tell them you're the designated driver. You also might get your nonalcoholic beverage of choice on the house.
"ah where's the rest of your group?"
You can also simply say, "I have to drive." Assuming you drove yourself. I rarely drink, so I use that one a lot as well.
“I’m driving your mom and might get lucky. “
I mostly just shrug it off. Laugh all you want, it's not hurting me.
"Id like a rum and coke without the rum, thanks" - Me who is allergic to alcohol.
As a woman, you are more masculibe than every man in that bar.
You know what a real man does? He drinks what he damn well pleases
Sip
Slurp
Listen, I like beer, sour beer, hoppy beer, Belgian style beer, but at this point in my life I can't drink any of it without feeling like shit afterwards. You'll catch me ordering a Sex On The Beach, or any other sweet drink instead. That's if I'm even in the mood to drink, which I'm usually not.
If you ask me it takes more balls to order a "girly" drink then it does to order a bud light.
"Free thinkers" when you don't get the diesel resin charcoal roasted flavored hard liquor
Makes me think about a shampoo bottle I saw at my parents once. It was for men and it had a picture of an explosion on it. It was called ‘extreme shampoo’ and it smelled like ‘wood and fire’ or something like that. It had a nice smell which reminded me of the forest, but the bottle itself was just comical.
That’s funny, because I go camping often and you shower to rid of the wood and fire smell
Don’t worry and remember hot people drink tea.
the fuck? mint tea is the preferred drink of millions of men living in north africa and the middle east.
I had the same, with ordering a tea at a bar. I just ignore this dumb society.
I've had a similar experience before in NL. One evening at a bar I asked for an espresso (the machine was still on and functional) and the two bar women kept trying to shame me into getting a beer instead. Never went back to that place
I just drink wine and get told similar nonsense because of it and because I don' drink beer at all.