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[–] [email protected] 62 points 1 year ago (4 children)

This is basically just fishing but with fewer steps.

[–] BackOnMyBS 14 points 1 year ago

I'll take two!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My favorite part of fishing is the intense shut-the-fuck-up camaraderie.

The occasional "Nice!", or even a good grunty "MmHMM!" Is really all the talking you need on the creek.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] noughtnaut 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

What a fantastic perspective! I love not going fishing.

Your user name is fantastic, by the way. Built anything interesting recently? 🐬

[–] Stinkywinks 6 points 1 year ago

Lol "I love not going fishing"

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Depends on what you find interesting I suppose...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Re: Username: I'm not sure I want to see your planet's fjords.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

You probably do not.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

My best friend would just hang out and watch me play video games, and turn down playing himself when I would offer because I felt bad. He said he liked watching me because I was so much better than him and it was the only way he'd see parts of the games I liked playing.

Sucks that he lives in another state. And is also married with children. Probably wouldn't hang out much even if we lived closer.

[–] thorbot 21 points 1 year ago (2 children)

married with children

Oh he must have moved to Alabama

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Noughty. Get out 🤣

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That would be married to his children lol

[–] BackOnMyBS 3 points 1 year ago

it sounds like he was the bestest of friends 🥹

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I have a friend like this who lived close and we didn’t hang out much, but that’s being a grown up. He recently moved, but the rare times we do get together are awesome.

[–] zenbhang 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

This is actually common in many other cultures and I wish it was more normalized in general US culture.

That being friendships where there is no need for a reason to hang out besides the company.

I live in NYC and I have some select friends who also grew up culturally outside the US and we do this:

If I asked them what they were up to, they'd say something like "going to the barbershop for a haircut", "doing laundry at the laundromat", or other errands.

I would then ask to tag along and maybe say a thing or two from time to time, but for the most part I'm doing something parallel to them.

Usually I'm reading a book, checking my phone, watching Netflix, working on my laptop etc.

It's great.

There's no need for an excuse to be with these friends.

We just enjoy each other's company.

[–] BackOnMyBS 7 points 1 year ago

That's true based on my limited experiences. My people in Cuba don't feel the need to talk all the time and tagging along for an errand is generally welcomed and appreciated.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Mia: Don't you hate that?
Vincent: What?
Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question.
Mia: That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

[–] BackOnMyBS 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Why not, there are much worse results out there.

[–] favrion 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] Simpkill 1 points 1 year ago

Lance: Look, you brought her here, and that means that you're giving her the shot. The day that I bring an OD-ing bitch over to your house, then I'll give her the shot. Give her the shot.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Fucking love Frog and Toad are Friends!

[–] PC509 9 points 1 year ago

This was the way it was for me when I was younger. We didn't have to do anything. Just have someone around. We'd read comics, play games, do whatever. Just be around each other, doing anything or nothing. Sure, there'd be times we were very active together or go do something. But, it was very cool and fun to just have someone around and hang out for the company...

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Being able to be around someone in comfortable silence is a thing to treasure.

[–] SasquatchBanana 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A lot of autistic people enjoy parallel play. I know i enjoy the presence of other people while i read or play games.

[–] BackOnMyBS 2 points 1 year ago

You might enjoy reading this article then!

[–] Num10ck 4 points 1 year ago

there should be a tinder for homeskillet chillers

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I really agree with this. Until they start playing music. Then I get annoyed and wish I was fishing alone

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] jarfil 8 points 1 year ago

A loneliness thing.