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Mutual aid spam is becoming a problem on the Fediverse.

And to be sure, I'm not against mutual aid. What I am against is spam.

This person has not verified who she is -- or even if the profile picture is hers. Additional research on her name states she is a scammer with a record of grifting. I am therefore skeptical that any donations will help anyone in need.

Folks, please be cautious with mutual aid requests. Yes, people sometimes need help. But people also lie.

@[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I just mute all of them.

It may be my "3rd world syndrome" but to me, someone with internet access and a social media account who post regularly, is not in poverty. More likely a spambot.

My local beggar, in contrast, is a sincere person who tells me that he just want some cheap boxed wine or something to smoke. Refuses food or any kind of help. Cash only.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 minutes ago

Not trying to change your mind on giving money to internet grifters but having a cell phone is pretty much a basic tool of survival these days even if you're destitute. Phones more than a couple years old are basically e-waste and cost nothing or are donated/trashed all the time. Even a WiFi only phone can be the best tool someone has to find shelter, food and get important weather updates.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 4 hours ago (4 children)

Is it weird that I've never heard this term "mutual aid" before this thread but apparently everyone here knows all about it?

Anyway. There's just no way I'd give real money to someone asking for it like this because for every real person there must be a dozen scammers at least. It honestly seems crazy to me that this could work and people could send money.

If people are giving money away like this then they're part of the problem IMO. You're encouraging scammers, and perpetuating the practice, diverting money away from the people who actually need it.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 hour ago

Mutual aid is not giving random internet assholes money because they begged for it. I'm not saying they should be banned from doing so, but calling it mutual aid is 100% a scam. Mutual aid is given freely, within a pre-established network.

Hosting a friend on your couch for a week cause they're in between apartments is mutual aid. Feeding your friends without expecting anything in return is mutual aid. Enabling e-begging is not mutual aid.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

It isn't really that odd, considering you've only been here a couple of weeks. Mutual Aid is a foundational idea in most if not all anarchist projects and theory.

There may be many scammers, yes, but the goal remains the same - get help to those who need it from those in a position to give it.

As for being part of the problem, I must disagree. Scammers aren't leeching just this, they'd be present in any system purporting to help others (in gov't systems this is called fraud), the goal of these grassroots aid projects is to help those who fall through the cracks of more formalized systems and decentralize some aid in case the church/NGO/gov't can't or won't help (see the Hurricane Helene/Katrina responses when FEMA is overwhelmed).

Means-testing recipients is kinda a dick move anyway: those who have demonstrable need will have a harder time getting aid and time/money that should be spent helping are now spent with verification.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Hah.

I've probably been kicking around the fediverse longer than you, it's just this particular account that's only a few weeks old.

Anyhow, feel free to continue giving money to people asking for it on lemmy i guess.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Fair 'nuff. I hadn't really considered an alt account.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

I first heard it in 2019 or 2020 from the queer community but I have a feeling it has deeper roots

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Is it weird that I've never heard this term "mutual aid" before this thread but apparently everyone here knows all about it?

May be an American thing? I don't know have never heard of it or encountered it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

It's a very terminally online leftist thing. You would see it in communist/anarchist leftist spaces, people retweeting posts of disabled/neurodivergent people asking for help with rent.

I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it, and kudos to those who donate. But it quickly turns into a popularity/disability contest of who can fit the most disability categories in a GoFundMe.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Aha. I consider myself leftist, but not in the ml corner. I had never encountered it.

Cheers for explaining!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Personally only seen one asking for help and it was just a fella in my instance (super small) saying hey if u live in ___ my friend needs a place to crash at, retoot if possible (sounds super legit)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

i had helped 2 people through Mastodon who seemed to genuinely need it on Mastodon a few months ago. I think it is nice to know that I can help people who need and they might help in my time of need.It is functional.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 13 hours ago

@atomicpoet @fediverse I'm glad someone brought this up. I basically assume all mutual aid posts are fraudulent unless strictly verifiable.

[–] [email protected] 64 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, mutual aid works on the local level or in insular communities like long-term discord groups with a tight group of regular members. With community mutual aid, I'm generally in favor of just taking people at their word. If they say they need help, give them help. No need to interrogate them like the food stamp office will. You prevent people from abusing the system by simply not granting endless requests from the same person. Or if someone needs severe aid, at that point you can start actually verifying their story, helping them access government benefits, helping them find employment, etc.

But that kind of open approach works for in-person aid. It doesn't work for anonymous online aid, where someone can use bots to spin up hundreds of convincing profiles each begging for money.

I just don't think mutual aid works well in an online context. The only online context it works in is among communities like small discord groups where people know each other for years. But on a lemmy or mastadon-type service? Mutual aid is impractical. Any people asking for aid should be directed to local groups that can help them in person.

[–] andros_rex 15 points 10 hours ago

I see a lot of teenagers falling for the “I’m a Gazan and need help getting out.” accounts too.

[–] YarHarSuperstar 6 points 13 hours ago

I agree, and I believe that tapping in to and participating in local networks and groups whether they be fully or partially online and/or in person is beneficial for both ones self and ones community. It seems to me it will be these networks that make much of the difference between survival of large populations and large scale disasters. Community organizing is so important.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

How is this mutual aid spam? This is by definition not mutual. It's begging.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago

It is "mutual aid spam" because I believe these are posted in mutual aid communities.

[–] LovableSidekick 11 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (2 children)

Mutual aid is a common term for people in a group helping each other. It doesn't imply reciprocal transactions. But by all means, let's ignore the topic and pick apart the exact wording.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 hours ago

It's not ignoring the topic. Mutual aid is an organized operation. Literally says it the link. This is not mutual aid. The topic is about "mutual aid spam" which this is not at all an example of "mutual aid". This is just begging or panhandling or scamming.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

They might not have known what mutual aid is and you explained it very well with the first two sentences. The last sentence doesn't serve any useful purpose if they didn't know.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 15 hours ago

There is an entire sub on here somewhere that is only for mutual aid. The sob stories in there are batshit crazy.

[–] brucethemoose 161 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Yep.

I feel the fediverse should lean towards “overly aggressive” when combatting spam, before it takes root, even with all the negatives that brings.

[–] farcaster 82 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (2 children)

I agree. E-mail is the original federated service. And 50 years later e-mail spam remains a big problem. I hope Fedi projects can get spam mitigations on-par with email before spammers start getting serious about this place.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Unfortunately, email solved the spam problem by becoming centralized AF. Now everything requires a “reputation”.

[–] mcz 5 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

"Email solved the spam problem by becoming centralizing" yeah most of the spam I get is from gmail or has a reply-to header with gmail address

[–] GamingChairModel 26 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I'd argue that telephones are the original federated service. There were fits and starts to getting the proprietary Bell/AT&T network to play nice with devices or lines not operated by them, but the initial system for long distance calling over the North American Numbering Plan made it possible for an AT&T customer to dial non-AT&T customers by the early 1950's, and set the groundwork for the technical feasibility of the breakup of the AT&T/Bell monopoly.

We didn't call it spam then, but unsolicited phone calls have always been a problem.

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[–] [email protected] 115 points 19 hours ago (4 children)

I don't think mutual aid can work well like that on the internet. Works great in person, works OK for GoFundMe-type stuff like "I had something happen to me that will take a lot of money to fix". Too easy to scam and grift for small stuff like this though, where for all you know they're just a very clever dog on the internet.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 19 hours ago (9 children)

Charity is not the same as mutual aid anyways, even though I have also seen "mutual aid" requests on the Fediverse that were clearly asking for charity.

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[–] [email protected] 89 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

That's not mutual aid, that's scam spam. Report it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

One problem with reporting private messages on Lermy is, as an admin i don't see who sent the message. I only see who reported it. And i don't have any actlon available, other than marking the report as handled.

with reported posts, i can ban the poster. With reported messages i'd have to ask the reporter who it was, trust their answer, search for the account manually and then i could ban. Not really efficient or fast if there ever was a spam wave.

of course sparmers could then just register a new account on a open instance and i might need to defederates which would lead to a fractured landscape of spammy open instances and likely inactive private instances.

there's also not even rudimantary spam filtering in lemmy.

The main saving grace is that Lemmy is too small to attract a ton of spam yet.

maybe some of the above is just due my pick of clients (jerboa and the web interface), and there's better tools? If so, i'd love to hear. But as things stand right now, there's a lot to be desired

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 hours ago

I wish I had approximately double the hours in a given day, and also vastly more coding skill to help in meaningful ways.

It seems sort of odd that comments or messages reported for spam don’t offer any tools. Even a simple url pattern match that gives mods/admins the ability to click a checkbox to remember the link and take some predefined action in the future would be a rudimentary but effective option.

I mean, heck, it’s the fediverse. In my fantasy implementation of an anti-spam approach, it would be possible to federate these lists of untrusted links and assign consensus-based confidence scores for links generated from moderator actions across instances. (With options for instance admins to tailor their own trust scores of other instances, so that each instance can choose for themselves who they trust, just in case a couple rogue instance admins try to poison the spam filter.)
Same concept can be applied to banned accounts, although in that circumstance, I’d suggest they find a way to mask the email address when sharing it. Not that folks won’t just spin up a new email. But, you know. Something is better than nothing.

Hopefully that makes sense. I’m losing my mind with sleep deprivation.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 17 hours ago

@fediverse @atomicpoet Yep! Majority of them are questionable, even those who claim they were "manually" verified by some supposedly "well-known" person. Even in the ATmosphere network, it's the same.

[–] horse_battery_staple 39 points 19 hours ago

That's not mutual aid that's charity. Mutual aid is mutually beneficial to both parties.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

This is nothing, on hexbear there's a person pretending to be like half a dozen different Palestinians with different fraudulent GoFundMe. They cook up a new persona like every other week using pictures they scrape from the media and then run it through an AI filter.

[–] rustyfish 2 points 7 hours ago

Same on Bluesky. And they are everywhere. Couple of years ago some accounts did this multiple times on Imgur. Even today occasionally some pop up again, but now the users are quick to call them out…with the admins doing jack shit. Which is classic for that site.

When coming across a sob story my knee jerk reaction is “bullshit”. If you want to give money to charity, do so through a reputable organisation. And don’t trust any rando on the internet.

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