No Stupid Questions

It seems obvious you know your behavior sucks. You can either make an effort, which most people actually do, or you can pretend you don't understand and use it as an excuse.

Eventually they won't be there for you. Why would they when you can't even be polite or watch their stupid little half a minute videos.

Relationships take effort. It's easy to notice when the effort is only one sided and it's very hard to come back from it once it's clear. Minimum effort or less doesn't make for good friendships.

Plenty of responses to your previous post about dry texts

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Define Friend are they people you enjoy hanging-out with ? Or the people you'll call when your mother die or when you'll need help to move a sofa ? Late teen , early adulthood is a bit the moment where you make the transition from your friend because a computer decided you'd be in the same classroom and you choose to be friend with these persons

In today's society, there is a kind of expectation of reacting to "text messages" quickly, but not everyone is like that, and you may feel better with people who don't have this expectation.

Also remember, stranger thing is wrong, friends don't have to do everything together there is people you enjoy doing a shared hobby with, and people you enjoy spending time with, and if you don't follow them bowling or to the night-club it's absolutely fine

Okay so you’re going to have to start lying a lot. I don’t know exactly how you’re experiencing these things but I struggle sometimes with my own personal relationships and keeping up with people. Contrary to what many ppl will say, friendships do take effort, lots of it. Depending on the person it could be more or less, but I’m it case it’s going to be a lot.

You have to recognize that part of your role our job in a friendship is to make your friends feel good. That’s why people make friends in the first place. This doesn’t mean your feelings don’t matter or that you have to be a “people pleaser” but it does mean you don’t say things like you don’t like spending time with them.

If you aren’t genuinely interested, but know someone wants to talk about something you feign interest. For example: if someone says “woah I has a crazy day”, they aren’t saying the words “let me tell you about my crazy day” but it’s a social expectation that you’re supposed to ask “woah what happened” or something along those lines.

Some people might say this is dishonest, but in my opinion actions speak louder than words. If you put a ton of effort into making your friends feel loved, safe, and happy, then they’re getting their half out of the social bargain. Some people just express their love for their friends in less socially common ways, and the typical ways don’t always come naturally.

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