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Maybe everyone being anxious and depressed is healthy in a dying world.
I tried doing therapy for a while, just to realize everything that stresses me out are totally valid stressors and the solution isn't to go to therapy but to change our economic system.
I don't know about healthy, but yeah it's a totally reasonable reaction to what's going on around us to feel despair, if you have any shred of empathy in your body. Therapy does keep me mostly sane from month to month but at this point I'm putting it on hold. I truly believe we're going to be at war (real war, not culture war) with each other in the US within 5-10 years, so might have to start shifting the therapy money to physical fitness expenses, gear, and ammo. And I intend to start training like-minded people how to 'protect themselves' from the aggressors.
the solution isn’t to go to therapy but to change our economic system.
how's that working out for you? the economic system hasn't changed and you're still miserable, right? what if you had more capacity to fight by effectively managing your stressors? wouldn't that be preferable? or is change just too difficult and this is an easier story to tell yourself? my god this MH community is getting my blood boiling as bad as r/conservative.
I hope the dopamine you got from shitting out this comment made you feel better :3
Why so dismissive? This is a genuine concern and you're kinda just doing the same dopamine game. (You even have a smiley face, you're the happy one here!)
I just don't understand why you come to a MH community to post anti-MH sentiment.
Can you at least acknowledge that your comment is not a MH affirming attitude? Or do you really not see it???
Your comment came off as dismissive to me.
Mental health is different for everyone. But most stressors come from people's economic situation, or the stress of abuse caused by someone else probably experiencing too many stressors.
For some people it's healthier to ignore everything they can't control, even if it effects them negatively. This helps people cope but also leads to an independent and solitary approach to mental health that I think we try to shoehorn too many people into, which helps keep us isolated and exploitable.
For some it's better to stay present, aknowledge that the things that effect them negatively can be changed, even if they alone are powerless.
For me personally, what my comment was about, I didn't like feeling helpless and checked out from reality (yes i know that's not how everyone feels in this method)
As far as my misery, it's a scale from depressed/hopeless to enraged/empowerd, and I haven't been happy my entire life so that's not really a concern for me. And i have realized my misery is because of all the horrible misery I have to witness in the world I was forced into. It's completely unnecessary, its honestly offensive. We could have heaven on earth if we just fucking built it. And I beleive if more people felt like me we would fix these issues.
Different strokes for different folks
You know, pointing out that we've failed as a species isn't the most MH affirming either.
at what point did i -- you're just trying to rile me up arent you
it worked, good job. i hope you're proud
how’s that working out for you? the economic system hasn’t changed and you’re still miserable, right?
Literally right there.
Therapy takes a while.
It isn't an instant win. But you will see their bottle that is specifically catered to you will become bigger.
Sometimes it's a never-win, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go if you need it and are able to afford it.
There's no therapist on the planet that can help me 'fix' myself completely, far too many decades of trauma and paying attention to what's going on around me, but they do help me maintain and cope. Worth it.
It just hit me, I think it may be more appropriate to think about (actually helpful) therapy as placing those drops of water into a bucket, and there are times when that accumulated water doubles itself (breakthroughs, realisations, etc.) More like an investment of sorts.
At least, that's how it felt as I went through it. It never had a regular progression, it was always about leaps and bounds, then falling on my ass again for a couple of weeks, then snapping out of it when something I'd discussed 6 sessions ago finally clicked into place.
This is definitely true in “regular” times. Meaning when my country is not on political fire. Lately most conversations with marginalized clients revolve around “what do I to stay safe?” and “how the hell can I leave the country?” It’s very sad.
I have heard that schools in my area have begun the process of making "code red" plans if ICE or someone shows up to schools looking for students/parents. It is being done by small groups and no details shared outside of the people they are contacting to share the plan with. It's all scary as hell and I HATE that it's even a thing. =(
Edit also thank you for helping those adrift right now!
Heck, my favourite therapist (a very, very empathetic and honest person) retired from psychotherapy before hitting 30 during the Pandemic because they couldn't take the influx of destabilised people. I can't even imagine how much more horrible and immediate the situation in the States is right now...
Sincerely wish you and your clients as much peace and safety as humanly possible in these conditions!
Thank you, I appreciate that!
Good therapy should hand you the bottle and tell you not to dump it on all at once but to start dripping it on and check in for refills with the refill being a bit larger each time.
As a fellow therapist, same
...now I feel bad for the therapist I'm going to talk with next week. (I'd laugh, but I'd also cry.)
This, except all the fires are going on outside the windows of the therapist’s office, to the horizon, as far as the eye can see.
"Also, that'll be $200"
That's alchemical fire though and adding water only feeds it.