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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

This is probably why I like queer people despite not being one myself. I'm queer in the traditional sense of the word.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 2 days ago
  1. Replace with Tequila and I have been here more times than I care to admit.
  2. Have some LemmyGold.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (4 children)

now what is the connection between neurodivergence and detesting alcohol?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

If I had to guess I'd say either sensory issues with drinking alcohol itself, or the fact that drinking is another one of those social things that many only do because "it's what people do"

In my case it's a sensory thing but I also apparently have that gene that that makes you really sensitive to bitter. So even the fruitiest "you can't even taste the alcohol" drink tastes to me like paint thinner smells.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

I'm not into it either. I don't hate it, it's just mid

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

It's an acquired habit that you develop by repeatedly using alcohol as a social crutch. I don't think anyone is born liking the taste of alcohol.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago

Mine has the bottom bit spread out through the entire bottle... And also any other beverage, like water!

But the rest is accurate.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Gonna start replying more often to people asking where they can find me with "you'll find me at the bottom of a bottle of vodka"

[–] A_Union_of_Kobolds 23 points 2 days ago

"How I came to realize I was ace once I quit drinking"

[–] edg 11 points 2 days ago

I'd like to read more about the middle part. The last part is good too.