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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It could be a growth spurt that’s happening or a new skill (crawling, standing up, or even walking) they’re working on. Do they seem more hungry than usual? If they’re getting more mobile it could be a hungry tummy that’s keeping them up.

Hang in there!

[–] ComradeMiao 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They just started standing. How does that affect sleep?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

The brain development is strongly linked to sleep patterns (mrt studies showed a correlation between bad sleep and learning activities in the brain).

There why you will have sleep regression patterns where it seems to get worse again. It'll also get better again!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

At 6 months. Can't wait lol

[–] ComradeMiao 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How’re they sleeping now

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Down at around 8pm. Dream feed at 1130 (w/ diaper change). Then he's good till about 6am when I get up for work.

He's our first but it seems like we got really lucky with him sleeping well.

[–] ComradeMiao 2 points 1 week ago

That’s pretty good! I think you can probably stop dream feeding within the next couple weeks too :) ours is the same except recently. He would sleep from 7-6!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] ComradeMiao 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Is that it though? They already have six teeth and I don’t see more coming in yet… teething actually was never that bad for us. Maybe once every one or two hours not every 30 minutes

[–] Tot 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They're up every 20 minutes? What do they seem to need?

[–] ComradeMiao 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They just stand up and cry and cry staring at us in bed. Their diaper and food levels are fine…

[–] Tot 2 points 1 week ago

Maybe they just need snuggles. 🤷‍♀️

What calms them?

[–] Num10ck 0 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Sleep training is rough. One approach is to lock their door and let them cry it out. first night can be an hour long. second night should be much less. by the 4th night they generally stop trying to get your attention. but all of your instincts will be to give in and soothe them.

another approach is to let them ruin your nights for years and they will be sleeping in your bed until they are embarrassingly old.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago

I'm not aware of any studies supporting this conclusively. The biggest factor seems to be brain development which parents can't speed up at that age

This"sleep training" from the late 80s has a high chance of being seen in 20 years similar to whiskey against toothing pain from a decade earlier.

I can already here the people coming with "it worked for me!" and the utter lack of self awareness in that sentence.

[–] cevn 4 points 1 week ago

I am a big fan of the second approach apparently.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Sleep training like that is a bit extreme imo, we started with a much lower threshold (5 mins) and only expanded a little bit (+5-10 mins) until our kids started to adjust. Worked well enough for them, they were sleeping mostly uninterrupted regularly around 4-5 months. Some regressions happen but we just apply the same technique and they're back to regular in a couple days.