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Sleep training is rough. One approach is to lock their door and let them cry it out. first night can be an hour long. second night should be much less. by the 4th night they generally stop trying to get your attention. but all of your instincts will be to give in and soothe them.
another approach is to let them ruin your nights for years and they will be sleeping in your bed until they are embarrassingly old.
I'm not aware of any studies supporting this conclusively. The biggest factor seems to be brain development which parents can't speed up at that age
This"sleep training" from the late 80s has a high chance of being seen in 20 years similar to whiskey against toothing pain from a decade earlier.
I can already here the people coming with "it worked for me!" and the utter lack of self awareness in that sentence.
I am a big fan of the second approach apparently.
Sleep training like that is a bit extreme imo, we started with a much lower threshold (5 mins) and only expanded a little bit (+5-10 mins) until our kids started to adjust. Worked well enough for them, they were sleeping mostly uninterrupted regularly around 4-5 months. Some regressions happen but we just apply the same technique and they're back to regular in a couple days.