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[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Yes, but it's also important to remember that this is universally recognized because it's a common aspect of preadolescent brains. I know this is just a comic, but I've seen a lot of parents treat it like willful belligerence (and sometimes it might be), but that's not necessarily accurate or constructive. Kids don't choose that their brain makes them prefer certain things and have a visceral aversion to new foods. Some kids can be encouraged to try things and will enjoy them once they've tried them, but some kids just can't do it until their brain is more developed and the disgust reaction to new food dampens.

It's an extreme example, but I've watched my kid try to force himself to eat something because I asked him to try it and he was literally shaking and dry heaving trying to put it in his mouth. IIRC it was a french fry that was shaped differently than the ones he usually eats. Like I said, extreme example, but kid brains are legit wired differently when it comes to food, and that should be respected.

[–] DougHolland -5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sweet jeebers — it's a frickin' comic.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago

Yes, posted in a parenting community, where discussing parenting is presumably fair game. It's a relatable experience, but as the parent of a kid with involuntary food aversions, who grew up with family members getting into screaming matches over kids not trying food at holidays every year, I thought it was worth raising that this isn't always within a child's control.

[–] BroBot9000 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

At some point you should know your child and understand their dietary preferences. Don’t cater exclusively to them but don’t make dinner more difficult for yourself just because you refuse to listen to what your kid likes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

While i agree, not polite to bring grilled cheese to a family meal and forcing them to make my kid a grilled cheese isnt either; at least not my family.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What? Like they brought grilled cheese for their child and then your child wanted grilled cheese too but you didn’t want to make them also make your kid a grilled cheese?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Uh, no like you bring them over to family hosting, show them what's for dinner and then ask them what they would like and they ask for grilled cheese. Sorry for the poor explanation!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Ooooh gotcha yeah definitely valid annoyance, but also par for the course with some kids at a certain age unfortunately. Hope yall figure it out in the end!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

No worries! Thanks!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

"Stuffing? What does it stuff? Hey! Mom! What does it stuff?"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Someone here said this cartoon is typical of pre-adolescent brains. A friend who's the local "Jewish mother" of her block had the kids next door visiting her kids for a play date. She asked them if they wanted some cheese for a snack.

"I want goat cheese" said the 6yo boy.

The older 8yo was a little more polite "Do you have any brie?"

True story and so perfect I had to add it to a fanfic I was writing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

This is awesome!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

While it might not solve this kid's problem, that menu is missing a great American Thanksgiving side dish that's been traditional since Thomas Jefferson's enslaved chef James Hemings made it: macaroni and cheese!

[–] FrowingFostek 3 points 2 weeks ago

This but, maruchan.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Mine is Mac and Cheese