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As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted I'm wondering how to find friends now that I got better. Basically starting from zero since I know nobody in my city so I'm wondering if someone has some experience with finding friends as lonely anxious introvert and just how other people find friends.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Maybe it's possible for you to do some further education or a diploma? It brings you regularly together with people with common interests.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

I have made real-life friends on Instagram (well, back when insta was still semi decent), it's much easier for me to make the first move by text than try to do it face to face. Discord maybe? Activist groups in my experience are a good place to find like-minded people and they are usually welcoming to newcomers, same thing with underground-ish/alternative art/culture spaces -- if you are into any of that. Usually you can contact someone beforehand to show you around. For me it's really difficult to go to unknown social groups alone so the usual suggestion to "start a new hobby" doesn't really work.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Work. But I feel like they don't deserve me, they deserve someone better. I hate being lonely but I also hate wasting people's time.

[–] surewhynotlem 3 points 1 week ago

Meetup. Or really a any situation where you're with people doing the same activity.

[–] workerONE 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Playing tennis. There's local clubs that have social mixers where you play a few games and then switch courts and play with different people. There's USTA matches that pair you with people at your level. It's fun too

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