Awww thank you for doing that!!! I'm sure u made his day better! We guys receive very less compliments as it is.
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This is a big part of why. If a woman compliments a man, the odds that he'll take it as being hit on are very high. And if they then "reciprocate" and you aren't into him, he may or may not respond rationally.
Usually better not to risk it unless you know the guy and that he won't take it the wrong way.
It's a chicken and egg thing, I think. It's interpreted that way because it's so rare.
Good on ya'. Compliment other men. Build up your brothers!
I could be wrong, but I don't think this is an "other men" situation.
Either way, build each other up!
Women get this kind of attention and compliments constantly but I bet most of them don't realize just how rare it is for even the most handsome men. I remember Chris Williamson, podcasted, previously a male model and professional stud saying that he can pretty much count with one hand the times he has been approached by woman.
I've had a woman send me a blow kiss from a passing vehicle once. I bet she didn't think anything of it when as I'll remember it forever.
You say "this kind of attention" but go on to talk about being blown a kiss, which is veri different from what OP described.
I started dressing better and wearing bright.cors and I get compliments on my outfits now.
I know! I am free with compliments for my friends, gay men, random women. To be fair, I also don't see a lot of guys intentionally dressed like this man was - he had obviously thought out the outfit and it looked cool. I'd noticed it in the morning, but saw him on my way out and thought it ok to tell him I did notice it.
I just don't feel like I'd have been so open when younger because it's harder to make it obvious I am not hitting on him. Even though it's a safe for work compliment!
Do guys tell other guys they like their hair or clothes, though? Like, do you compliment each other on the superficial stuff?
Like, do you compliment each other on the superficial stuff?
We go to the gym expecting to get compliments from women but the only ones we end up getting are from other gymbros.
Ironically, my GF just asked some young fellow about his perfume and when she came home she told me about how worried she was about being labeled a creep because of it.