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For me, it was that the Internet never forgets and that you should never enter your real name. In my opinion, both of these rules are now completely ignored.

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[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You should use the Internet to get info out of it, not put your info there. If you do want to put info, it should never be traceable to you.

I just don’t get why people want so much of their life online…

[–] RaoulDook 15 points 1 day ago

It went from "don't post pictures of yourself or your real name online because you might get strangers' attention" to everyone trying to be their own version of a Max Headroom talking head to try to get the attention of all the strangers. Selfies, video selfies, talking head videos, reaction videos... all garbage.

[–] ace_garp 12 points 1 day ago (4 children)

The rules for abbreviations.

IIRC YMMV bc IANAL

Netspeak fluency has generally given way to textspeak.

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Don't talk to strangers.

Searching things is easy so don't post something without checking it. People now don't make the slightest effort to verify a rumor or conspiracy crap.

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[–] Jordan117 97 points 1 day ago (1 children)

When you share something cool, link back to the original creator or where you found it from.

[–] hightrix 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I’d argue this is the opposite of what was asked.

In the early days, no one would post sources or attribute “stuff” to anyone. We’d all just share what we thought were cool pictures.

Now, everyone gets mad when you dont post the name of the artist and their socials.

[–] Jordan117 3 points 1 day ago

This might be more of a blogosphere-era thing I guess. Even when most people blogging did it for pleasure rather than work, it was always considered polite to "hat tip" (h/t) the source of a given link, if you happened to find it on someone else's site.

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[–] Stern 107 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Don't feed the trolls.

Of course nowadays its nearly impossible to tell whos spouting racial slurs to get folks mad and whos doing it because they're just an asshole.

[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 day ago

Don't feed the AI

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

More recently, this behaviour is known as "driving engagement"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I remember when it was just funny edgy humor that was clearly satirical for the most part because a lot of us were just dumb kids. It was abrasive and stupid but you had this feeling everyone was in on the joke.

But bizarre satire has turned to deeply held conviction.

I'm not just sad that the mean spirited trolling persists, but that it's gotten more sincere and often must be taken seriously. :(

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Just assume almost everybody is an asshole online and you can't be wrong. Because anonymity has granted them that capability.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The fact that people being assholes with their real names on Facebook tells me, anonymity has nothing to do with it.

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[–] Sanctus 128 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Dont believe anyone on the internet.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 day ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 114 points 1 day ago (11 children)

Don’t pick up the phone if someone is online… I’m old

[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 day ago (5 children)

I’m a millennial, I learned this, and now I just don’t pick up the phone.

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 day ago (10 children)
[–] thedirtyknapkin 19 points 1 day ago (2 children)

twitter built itself on doing this the most nonsensical and annoying way possible.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

I’ve never used Twitter and every time I see a post with like… the original comment in the middle, a reply on top, and a reply again? On bottom? I’m like what the fuck is even how

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[–] [email protected] 70 points 1 day ago

When reading a long text, disconnect from the internet as soon as it has loaded so you don't pay for the time you spend reading.

[–] 58008 26 points 1 day ago (2 children)

As in real life, it's pretty sound advice to ignore, block or otherwise disengage from trolls and other forms of belligerents. Even in the '90s when I first started using the internet, the phrase of the day was "don't feed the trolls". But people just can't help themselves. They will even reply saying "I know you're a troll, but...".

The Steam forums are a great example, where every other thread is a fake "is this game woke??" screed. The fact that you can be rewarded for being a cunt there with jesters (which translate into points that can be spent to buy profile items) just makes it a thousand times worse. You get 'paid' to be a troll on Steam. It's insanity.

The only anti-troll weapon that works or is needed is oblivion. Let their steaming turd of a post curdle in solitude. Don't even downvote it. Being downvoted is a victory for them, an acknowledgement that they exist and that they've gotten your attention and that they've annoyed you. Shadowban them from your mind. Block them so that no future posts of theirs will infect your screen. Report them so mods can remove/ban them. Just don't engage directly with the post or the user. Don't say "blocked and reported" in the troll's thread/post. Just do it silently.

[–] DNU 8 points 1 day ago

Ive blocked so many award baiters on steam, when an update for one of the bigger games comes out the first few comment pages are filled with "you've blocked this user. If you've blocked enough of them the comments get usable again.

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 day ago

On the Internet I grew up on, pretty much anything was ok except to discuss (or even speculate about) the real-world identities of users who didn't very openly disclose them.

Now many people think the latter is ok.

[–] [email protected] 79 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Social media killed online aliases and I have a hard time deciding if we're all worse for it.

Instinctively I still stick by that, though, as you can tell by my anonymous profile with no bio, but when I volunteer any amount of personal info these days people are often confused that I'm not sharing openly who I am or where I'm from. Every time someone does that it weirds me out because in the 90s telling (and asking) people those things would have been such a suspicious, sketchy move.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 day ago (2 children)

in the 90s telling (and asking) people those things would have been such a suspicious, sketchy move.

a/s/l?

[–] Sequentialsilence 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

We were all 18/f/cal come on man…

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Aight, I put on my robe and wizard's hat.

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[–] WhatAmLemmy 14 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Shit, I provide every single service with randomly generated data, unless legally required. Just doing my part to pollute the training data.

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[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 day ago (15 children)

I'm a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don't need to know and we don't want to know. The only ones who would want to know are scammers or people wanting to give you a shitty time. I only use my real name online for people and places in where it's required like talking to agents from my bank, insurance .etc And very few friends know my real name through FB and the circle anyways.

Don't send nudes online to anybody. I know of some communities where people happily are flaunting it one moment then they make a post later whining about them being exploited or that they thought they were crafty hiding the nudes from someone they're married with. They delete it but they're too naive to think that what's already out there, has most likely been saved by hundreds by now, so you're fucked either way.

Another is, is that if you want to be understood, then you need to use proper spelling and grammar. I miss the days when you got kicked at because you used 'u' in replacement of 'you'. It's just two fucking extra letters you lazy asshole. These days saying stupid shit like; 'yah fr u tha fam' is somehow a complete sentence. No, I'm going to give you shit for it and if you want me to bother caring with what you have to say, fucking make some sense. I don't even get offended by insults when they're poorly spelled, it just tells me what kind of an inept moron you are.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

yah fr u tha fam

The only abbreviations in that are fr and u. Fam is slang for family, not a text only abbreviation. "Tha" is just a transcription of how someone may say "the". Like "da bomb". "Yah" is either a typo of "yeah" or the same as "tha". This feels more like an insult against people transcribing vernacular literally. Are you racist?

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I'm with you on the no real names, no nudes. "Don't dox yourself" was the norm pre-Myspace. Facebook made it almost fashionable to do so.

I'm fine with shorthand and colloquialisms, especially in the era of the smartphone and their lack of physical keyboards.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Facebook made it almost fashionable to do so.

"

Zuck: yea so if you ever need info about anyone at harvard just ask

Zuck: i have over 4000 emails, pictures, addresses, sns

Friend: what!? how’d you manage that one?

Zuck: people just submitted it

Zuck: i don’t know why

Zuck: they “trust me”

Zuck: dumb fucks

"

One of many sources

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[–] Feathercrown 14 points 1 day ago

Most of them. Don't believe everything you see, don't give out personal information or real-life pictures... the usual.

[–] [email protected] 57 points 1 day ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 53 points 1 day ago

I remember being taught in school to apply source criticism, and that seems to have largely died as a concept.

This was back in the early 2000s...

[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Don't get into stranger's cars, and don't give out your real name or number or address on the internet.

Now you do most of these things when you call an uber. 😅

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Internet is a proper noun and should always be capitalized.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Archer 1 points 16 hours ago

Well, if The Hawk says it’s all right…

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