Nothing but water and Diet Pepsi today! ;)
Stop Drinking
This is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking. It is also a place for non drinkers to discuss and share.
We welcome anyone who wishes to join in by asking for advice, sharing our experiences and stories, or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit or cut down.
Please post only when sober; you’re welcome to read in the meanwhile.
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A little over a month. Try not to think about it but it creeps up constantly. I have no cravings just the nagging thought that now I can control it, one drink isn't going to matter.
if I could control it, I wouldn't be here. I've never been able to stop at one for my whole life, because the alcohol dissolves my self control just when I need it most (deciding not to have that second glass of wine).
I found that moderating, or trying to moderate, was hard work. Being basically lazy, I find not drinking is actually the easy option, I don't have to think of rules, then spend time thinking of how to break the rules, then spend more time beating myself up for breaking the rules. Not drinking is one decision and done.
e.g "No drinking at home," so I'll go out for dinner every night for a week. Great, now I've put weight on, I've spent my entire dining out budget for the month, and I've drunk nearly five bottles of wine in a week. Idiot.
Not drinking me still goes out to dinner, but goes less often, and goes to nicer places, and chooses places that have interesting non-alcoholic drinks on the menu.
I am so done.
I hit a massive turning point yesterday. I was at a festival and a friend of mine was super far gone. I waited for a good chunk of time for him to come out so I could escort him to the train station. I was pretty mad.
Then I went home by bike. I reflected on a not great night where I drank too much too quickly and it pretty much ruined an otherwise okay festival.
When I got home I flushed away the rum I still had even though I haven't touched it in over a week.
I find music helps a lot, I pretty much had Headlights by Charlie Cunninham on repeat when I had my head set on stopping with drinking.
I will not drink with you today! Enjoying my coffee with an early breakfast 🥰