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"Men are bad at picking up on women's hints." What are your actual thoughts on this sentiment? (self.casualconversation)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by FatTony to c/casualconversation

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Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I'm wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don't want to risk it.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

If I interpret what I see as a hint in the wrong way, and actually act on that misinterpretation, it could almost trivially lead to my arrest, conviction, and likely incarceration. And any sort of record - even if I was exonerated - could do significant to severe damage to my life-long economic potential.

So I just don’t fucking deal with hints. The math just does not make that a viable option in any logical or rational way.

If you, as a woman, can’t come out and converse like a functional adult, imma just gonna ignore you wholesale like the immature, games-playing child you are.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Unless your response to a hint is sexual assault, how do you think that it's supposed to trivially lead to your arrest?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Unless your response to a hint is sexual assault, how do you think that it's supposed to trivially lead to your arrest?

I think you need to update your 60s-era viewpoint to include unwanted attention and a metric arseload of other things a lot less severe than outright rape.

This world isn’t black and white. There are a lot of shades of grey, and most of that spectrum has been criminalized (for men, specifically; women aren’t affected) since your obsolete and archaic viewpoint ossified itself into your brain.

Men have been arrested for as little as making a woman uncomfortable. Even when he didn’t even realize she existed in the first place.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Women might be pissed when you approach them, and might insult you, but that's about it, unless you actually assault them.

https://muskokatoday.com/2022/05/man-arrested-after-approaching-women-they-say-made-them-feel-uncomfortable-suspicious-fearful/

You were saying? And that’s just one of the first articles in the search results.

Shoo, incels.

Interesting how the first thing you reached for was an ad hominem that is explicitly designed to shut down any conversation by shaming the other person into silence and into compliance with the female supremacist narrative.

Almost as if you had absolutely no viable counter-argument to provide.

Edit: And I am married. 18 years this year, 28 years with the same woman. So I am absolutely ineligible for the incel attribute. I just refuse to ignore uncomfortable facts, and will never bow to anti-reality ideologies.