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The Washington Post is very worried that American women don't want to marry Trump supporters (www.dailykos.com)

submitted 9 months ago by DevCat to c/[email protected]

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In an editorial published last week titled, “If Attitudes Don’t Shift, A Political Dating Mismatch Will Threaten Marriage,” The Washington Post’s editorial board points out that political polarization in this country has reached the point where it is now a prominent, often decisive factor in determining who Americans settle on as their potential mates. They emphasize this trend is now so acute it may actually threaten the institution of marriage as a whole. In particular, it seems that Democratic women are rejecting potential Republican suitors not only for marriage but as relationship material, all across the board. The message the editorial conveys—perhaps hyperbolically, perhaps not—is that as a consequence of this shift in attitudes, marriage itself in this country is in jeopardy.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 9 months ago (3 children)

When this editorial came out a few days ago, I decided to cancel my WaPo subscription as the straw that broke the camel's back. I have been a subscriber for years, but I cannot deal with this ridiculous agenda they are pushing over and over again. Marriage isn't a default good thing. People should choose if they want to be married or not. If the institution is failing because women are making a feminist choice to take care of themselves, let it fail. They push this line over and over again and as someone who divorced a bad male partner, it's NOT OK.

[+] [email protected] 20 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

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[–] cogman 11 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Yeah, literal Nazi ideology. Treating women as brood mares to make sure your toxic ideology can continue.

[–] Zombiepirate 6 points 9 months ago

On no! You can't call them Nazis or fascists or they'll become Nazis and fascists out of spite!

(If I had a dollar for every time I had that convo...)

[–] [email protected] -1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Oh it's not ideological per se. They just want the labor force to produce more labor units. That's just business.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

but only white babies.... none of those brown people!

This is one of those things that really is interesting about the labor and capitalistic ideal that we have to have more people to keep the economy going. There are LOTS of people willing to do the low end parts of the economy but that means we have to accept that the color of the average American will get darker.

Basically they want their cake and to eat it too.

[–] Leviathan 12 points 9 months ago

As a human being with a brain, I don't understand why they push this agenda either.

[–] Rachelhazideas 6 points 9 months ago

I don't agree with how it's presented in the article, but I do agree that declining marriage rates can be as much of a good sign as much as it's bad.

It's a great thing that more people, especially women, are able to decide if marriage is the right choice for them. It's a bad thing that for people who are interested in marriage or a lifelong partner, it is becoming increasingly difficult to find a partner. There is a loneliness epidemic going on, and it is getting increasingly difficult to get to know people due to rising work hours, burn out, lack of public and walkable spaces, lack of vacation days, rising costs of living, political radicalization, social distancing during covid, mental health decline, dating culture, gendered expectations, and so on.

It's not a bad thing that people are remaining single, it's a bad thing that for some people this choice was made for them due to the circumstances they are in. Ideally, people would get to decide whether they want to stay single or get married. Right now the options are stay single or go through the ever increasing hurdles of finding a partner when you are already struggling to get by yourself.

When people are happy, have healthcare, affordable housing, and livable wages, marriage is much more affordable. Right now, we have none of that and declining marriage rates are as much a sign that marriage has become optional as it has become non-viable.